I recently attended the funeral of a Baptist relative in Georgia (USA); and I noticed some practices that seemed very different from the burial traditions of Episcopalians (Anglican Communion) and the Roman Catholic Church.
Are these practices regional (Southern US), religious, or completely secular (invented by the funeral industry)?
1) The coffin did not remain closed after the visitation the night before the funeral. It was re-opened near the end of the service so that the mourners could take turns (row by row) to view the body. (The funeral took place in the funeral home%26#039;s chapel.)
2) The coffin could not be lowered for burial until the mourners had left. It was left above ground with a bouquet on top. (No earth was cast on it.) The family was told that they could return in an hour and that everything would be %26quot;fixed%26quot; with the flowers from the funeral placed on the grave.
Are these practices common to all Baptist funerals or are they secular inventions by the funeral home?
All of our funerals, around Pittsburgh Pa have been done like this:
1. The casket is open for a prayer session in the morning before the funeral and then it is closed as the people are readied to go over to the Church
2. The casket is not lowered and is left at ground level while the flowers from the funeral home are placed on it. If the family has a bouquet to leave there, they do. They file past the site and leave. Prior to this there is, in the Catholic Rite, a final prayer in a funeral tent or cemetary chapel.
This is the tradition I%26#039;m used to and it seems similar to what you had experienced. I have seen that they do seem to do it different in New York and possibly in the North east, by the family putting dirt onto the casket after it is lowered. They seemed to stop that here because people thought that lowering the casket was too painful for people, or my Mother said something like that once. But I also noticed that they moved the cemetary ceremony indoors or into a tent because it was just too cold for the old people and too hard for them to walk.
Reply:No I bet it has to do with the funeral home.
Reply:I grew up in a Baptist home and attended a couple of family funerals like this. So it must be relatively normal. I%26#039;m not sure if they were doing it to %26#039;be baptist%26#039; or just because that%26#039;s how the people who died wanted their funerals to be, though.
Reply:The funeral service pretty much is determined by the deceased (before death of course) and/or the family of the deceased.
Reply:Sounds like a typical American burial to me.
Reply:That is sick! I bet there were kids there. What could possibly be gained by letting a child see a dead relative?
Reply:Sounds like a typical funeral that I have attended.
Reply:Hi there, I am a funeral director, and this has been my experience with the Greek Orthodox religion, and possibly some Protestant faiths. They practice much of what you described. We try our best to abide by the wishes of the family, so it also could have likely been the request of the family. Take care!
Reply:This is a matter of choice and offered to the family as to their preference. I do many funerals of all denominations - I am on staff at a large cemetery. I have seen what you have mentioned and I%26#039;ve seen it every conceivable way.
It%26#039;s usually when the funeral home is running things and not a member of the clergy.
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Funeral question - I need an opinion: Is this tacky or not?
My husband%26#039;s grandmother died last night.
Today, as my husband and I were making arrangements to send flowers for the funeral, my mother-in-law called and told us that the poor dead woman%26#039;s daughters have decided that in lieu of flowers, they just want cash!! Not money to be donated to a worthy cause, but rather just money outright in their pockets (funeral arrangements were pre-made %26amp; paid for in advance).
We think this is exceptionally offensive and rather tacky of them (like this is just a way to get money for their %26quot;grief%26quot;). What%26#039;s your opinion?
Funeral question - I need an opinion: Is this tacky or not?
VERY TACKY!!!!!! If they were setting up a charity or something it would be different. But, it sounds like they are just greedy....and it shows a lot about their character - UGLY! I would pay respect to her by giving her flowers or something personal to her, not by giving the daughters money!
Reply:I think it%26#039;s tacky, too. However, you have a few options: go ahead and send flowers, donate to a charity in the deceased%26#039;s name, or give a donation to her church. I would prefer the donation method myself. Anyone who finds anything wrong with that is just being selfish and even tackier.
Reply:Wow, that is very tacky. I have never heard of people doing that? Just send the flowers out of respect for your husband%26#039;s grandmother.
Reply:Very tacky!!! You could just by single red roses to toss in the grave.
Reply:They are doing it these days, a lot of grave sites you can%26#039;t put the flowers their, so what they are doing is Giving money to the love one favorite charity, or your charity, in memory of your Grand-mom. and you can right it off your taxes. So it is not tacky, it is the in thing!
Reply:Send flowers.... the hell with those selfish *********.s.
Reply:thats not only tacky but extreamly rude and greedy, this poor lady passed away and they are being selfish and inconsiderate, do not send them money, sne flowers out of respect for the woman.
Reply:Maybe it%26#039;s just me , but I would have asked what for ? Do what you feel is right !
Reply:Very tacky, I wouldn`t send a thing.
Reply:In my personal opinion I think their a bunch of tacky bitches.
Reply:Send flowers anyway...
Reply:definilty bad news, just send flowers out of respect anyway.
Reply:I have never heard of anyone just asking for cash at a funeral. I have heard people ask for donations to a certain charity instead of flowers. I would say it is tacky and I would send flowers anyway.
Reply:My Goodness! That is so TACKY! In my opinion either send flowers anyway or if your husband%26#039;s grandmother was a religious women have a mass or service said in her name. You can contact the church and ask that your would like a service or mass dedicated to her. Another option is to still take the money you would spend in flowers and still make a donation to a charity in her name. It is what you think your husband%26#039;s grandmother would want, not what her daughters want.
Reply:Ignore them , your right that is extremely tacky!!! I would buy a ridiculous amount of flowers. People are weird when someone dies.
My father-in-law died last Aug and my husbands Grandmother sued us for the last five years worth of things she had bought him ( air conditioner, computer desk, clothes, shower curtain, cleaning supplies ) it all totaled around $ 56,000 no joke! We ended up giving her $40,000. It amazes me how money can %26quot;help%26quot; with the grief of losing a loved one.
Reply:If the daughters are children, and have no other care taker, perhaps they need the money. If they are adults, do what you and your husband want to do. You owe them nothing. It%26#039;s about what you would like to do for your grandmother-in-law now.
Reply:You should send the flowers anyway.
Reply:I agree with you - it IS offensive, crass in the extreme. I%26#039;d send them a bouquet of flowers with a note telling them how I felt about their request and that the flowers were in honour of their dead mother, not them.
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Today, as my husband and I were making arrangements to send flowers for the funeral, my mother-in-law called and told us that the poor dead woman%26#039;s daughters have decided that in lieu of flowers, they just want cash!! Not money to be donated to a worthy cause, but rather just money outright in their pockets (funeral arrangements were pre-made %26amp; paid for in advance).
We think this is exceptionally offensive and rather tacky of them (like this is just a way to get money for their %26quot;grief%26quot;). What%26#039;s your opinion?
Funeral question - I need an opinion: Is this tacky or not?
VERY TACKY!!!!!! If they were setting up a charity or something it would be different. But, it sounds like they are just greedy....and it shows a lot about their character - UGLY! I would pay respect to her by giving her flowers or something personal to her, not by giving the daughters money!
Reply:I think it%26#039;s tacky, too. However, you have a few options: go ahead and send flowers, donate to a charity in the deceased%26#039;s name, or give a donation to her church. I would prefer the donation method myself. Anyone who finds anything wrong with that is just being selfish and even tackier.
Reply:Wow, that is very tacky. I have never heard of people doing that? Just send the flowers out of respect for your husband%26#039;s grandmother.
Reply:Very tacky!!! You could just by single red roses to toss in the grave.
Reply:They are doing it these days, a lot of grave sites you can%26#039;t put the flowers their, so what they are doing is Giving money to the love one favorite charity, or your charity, in memory of your Grand-mom. and you can right it off your taxes. So it is not tacky, it is the in thing!
Reply:Send flowers.... the hell with those selfish *********.s.
Reply:thats not only tacky but extreamly rude and greedy, this poor lady passed away and they are being selfish and inconsiderate, do not send them money, sne flowers out of respect for the woman.
Reply:Maybe it%26#039;s just me , but I would have asked what for ? Do what you feel is right !
Reply:Very tacky, I wouldn`t send a thing.
Reply:In my personal opinion I think their a bunch of tacky bitches.
Reply:Send flowers anyway...
Reply:definilty bad news, just send flowers out of respect anyway.
Reply:I have never heard of anyone just asking for cash at a funeral. I have heard people ask for donations to a certain charity instead of flowers. I would say it is tacky and I would send flowers anyway.
Reply:My Goodness! That is so TACKY! In my opinion either send flowers anyway or if your husband%26#039;s grandmother was a religious women have a mass or service said in her name. You can contact the church and ask that your would like a service or mass dedicated to her. Another option is to still take the money you would spend in flowers and still make a donation to a charity in her name. It is what you think your husband%26#039;s grandmother would want, not what her daughters want.
Reply:Ignore them , your right that is extremely tacky!!! I would buy a ridiculous amount of flowers. People are weird when someone dies.
My father-in-law died last Aug and my husbands Grandmother sued us for the last five years worth of things she had bought him ( air conditioner, computer desk, clothes, shower curtain, cleaning supplies ) it all totaled around $ 56,000 no joke! We ended up giving her $40,000. It amazes me how money can %26quot;help%26quot; with the grief of losing a loved one.
Reply:If the daughters are children, and have no other care taker, perhaps they need the money. If they are adults, do what you and your husband want to do. You owe them nothing. It%26#039;s about what you would like to do for your grandmother-in-law now.
Reply:You should send the flowers anyway.
Reply:I agree with you - it IS offensive, crass in the extreme. I%26#039;d send them a bouquet of flowers with a note telling them how I felt about their request and that the flowers were in honour of their dead mother, not them.
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Funeral etiquette?
I was just wondering what proper funeral etiquette is? Do you have to bring flowers to a funeral or can you just show up and then leave when it is over?
Funeral etiquette?
Flowers are usually sent prior to the funeral as a gesture of sympathy and honor. It depends on your relationship to the deceased person or to a family member. It%26#039;s perfectly alright to attend a service and leave, but you might want to speak to a member of the family, etc. Some people attend graveside services after the funeral. A sympathy card is also thoughtful for a friend who has lost a loved one.
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Funeral etiquette?
Flowers are usually sent prior to the funeral as a gesture of sympathy and honor. It depends on your relationship to the deceased person or to a family member. It%26#039;s perfectly alright to attend a service and leave, but you might want to speak to a member of the family, etc. Some people attend graveside services after the funeral. A sympathy card is also thoughtful for a friend who has lost a loved one.
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Funeral? Dating 2 months?
I%26#039;ve been dating a girl for about 2 months. Her grandmother died, and they are having the funeral this weekend. I am close to her(as close as one can be after only 2 months). She is not the type to ask me for anything. I doubt that she would ask me to go to the funeral, and has not. I have to work, and she knows that...yet I feel that I should do something for her and her family. Do you think it would be a mistake to send flowers to the funeral? Should I do anything else?
Thanks for your time!
Funeral? Dating 2 months?
Yes, I do think that you should send flowers.
It%26#039;ll show her that you care a lot.
Do It!
Reply:deff, send flowers thats rele sweet
Reply:i think that is a lovely idea :)
u sound like a sweet guys and that is very sweet .
yes for sure send them
Reply:If you really want this relationship to go anywhere, you should take a few hours off of work and respect this girl%26#039;s family by going to the wake, funeral, or at least pass by her home or something. You need to show herthat you can be there for her when she needs some support. She should not have to ask you, you know what is right and what you need to do.
Yes, please send flowers. Send the flowers and put some time aside to at least go to one of farewells to her grandmother. Otherwise, in a few days, you can expect your walking papers. Her family and her will always remember that you did not even come to the funeral to pay your respects.
Now if the event is out of town or a long driving distance and you need to work, and time just does not allow. understandable that you can not attend. pLease send the flowers. Call herto check on her a few times throughout the day, and make sure you explain thatyou wanted to be there to support her but that you just could not.
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Thanks for your time!
Funeral? Dating 2 months?
Yes, I do think that you should send flowers.
It%26#039;ll show her that you care a lot.
Do It!
Reply:deff, send flowers thats rele sweet
Reply:i think that is a lovely idea :)
u sound like a sweet guys and that is very sweet .
yes for sure send them
Reply:If you really want this relationship to go anywhere, you should take a few hours off of work and respect this girl%26#039;s family by going to the wake, funeral, or at least pass by her home or something. You need to show herthat you can be there for her when she needs some support. She should not have to ask you, you know what is right and what you need to do.
Yes, please send flowers. Send the flowers and put some time aside to at least go to one of farewells to her grandmother. Otherwise, in a few days, you can expect your walking papers. Her family and her will always remember that you did not even come to the funeral to pay your respects.
Now if the event is out of town or a long driving distance and you need to work, and time just does not allow. understandable that you can not attend. pLease send the flowers. Call herto check on her a few times throughout the day, and make sure you explain thatyou wanted to be there to support her but that you just could not.
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J W's no practices with pagan origins? Then why wedding rings, flowers at funerals and embalming of the dead?
There IS Such a Thing as MATURE Christian (BALANCE) !
Nitpicking %26amp; Faultfinding Will (NOT) %26quot;Prevent%26quot; Jehovah%26#039;s CHRISTIAN Witnesses From %26quot;EXCAPING%26quot; the FEARFUL and FIRERY end 2 this %26quot;Wicked System of Things%26quot; !
%26quot;It IS a (FEARFUL) Thing to Fall INTO the HANDS of the LIVING GOD%26quot; ! ! !
J W%26#039;s no practices with pagan origins? Then why wedding rings, flowers at funerals and embalming of the dead?
Good question! I would like to know the answer to that one also.
Reply:Some customs are not religious in origin, some are required by law, others are a sign of respect.
We do our best to follow Jehovah%26#039;s guidance and principles while keeping our conscience clean as we show respect for others.
www.watchtower.org
Read it from our website to get the untainted truth
Reply:You need to quote your sources as to the pagan origin of what you state. Either way, just because a pagan did something does not make it bad, only if it was part of a religious rite.
Reply:Mimicry is indeed the highest form of flattery.
Reply:imitation, like the bible man made...
Reply:That is correct. Furthermore, the idea of bridesmaids is pagan in origin. They were supposed to shield the bride from evil spirits who might seek to harm her on her wedding day. I believe there was some significance to flower girl role as well. yet, JWs use all of these traditions in their marriage ceremonies while, at the same time, condemning people for having Christmas trees. Go figure.
What always gets me is that they are always so condemning of %26quot;pagan%26quot; origins of everything, when the WT org. is so rooted in occult origins, that it isn%26#039;t even funny!
Please share with those of us who don%26#039;t know about the pagan origins of the funeral-related things you mentioned.
Reply:JR:
%26quot;Genesis. 41:42
2 Then Pharaoh took his signet ring from his finger and put it on Joseph%26#039;s finger. He dressed him in robes of fine linen and put a gold chain around his neck
Esther 8:2, 8
2 The king took off his signet ring, which he had reclaimed from Haman, and presented it to Mordecai. And Esther appointed him over Haman%26#039;s estate.
Luke 15:22
22%26quot;But the father said to his servants, %26#039;Quick! Bring the best robe and put it on him. Put a ring on his finger and sandals on his feet.%26quot;
So are you trying to say that these people were married? This sounds like an advocation of gay marriage then.
Reply:--==Wedding Rings==--
The wedding ring is supposed to be of Roman origin, and to have sprung from the ancient custom of using rings in making agreements.%26quot; (American Cyclopædia)
It goes back even further, which God allowed his servants to wear rings.
Genesis. 41:42
2 Then Pharaoh took his signet ring from his finger and put it on Joseph%26#039;s finger. He dressed him in robes of fine linen and put a gold chain around his neck
Numbers 31:50
50 So we have brought as an offering to the LORD the gold articles each of us acquired—armlets, bracelets, signet rings, earrings and necklaces—to make atonement for ourselves before the LORD.%26quot;
Esther 8:2, 8
2 The king took off his signet ring, which he had reclaimed from Haman, and presented it to Mordecai. And Esther appointed him over Haman%26#039;s estate.
Luke 15:22
22%26quot;But the father said to his servants, %26#039;Quick! Bring the best robe and put it on him. Put a ring on his finger and sandals on his feet.
--==Flowers==--
Flowers are for the family.
--==Embalming of the dead==--
If we were preventing the body from decaying, then it would be embalming the dead.
Reply:Good question! I was just thinking about the subject.
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Nitpicking %26amp; Faultfinding Will (NOT) %26quot;Prevent%26quot; Jehovah%26#039;s CHRISTIAN Witnesses From %26quot;EXCAPING%26quot; the FEARFUL and FIRERY end 2 this %26quot;Wicked System of Things%26quot; !
%26quot;It IS a (FEARFUL) Thing to Fall INTO the HANDS of the LIVING GOD%26quot; ! ! !
J W%26#039;s no practices with pagan origins? Then why wedding rings, flowers at funerals and embalming of the dead?
Good question! I would like to know the answer to that one also.
Reply:Some customs are not religious in origin, some are required by law, others are a sign of respect.
We do our best to follow Jehovah%26#039;s guidance and principles while keeping our conscience clean as we show respect for others.
www.watchtower.org
Read it from our website to get the untainted truth
Reply:You need to quote your sources as to the pagan origin of what you state. Either way, just because a pagan did something does not make it bad, only if it was part of a religious rite.
Reply:Mimicry is indeed the highest form of flattery.
Reply:imitation, like the bible man made...
Reply:That is correct. Furthermore, the idea of bridesmaids is pagan in origin. They were supposed to shield the bride from evil spirits who might seek to harm her on her wedding day. I believe there was some significance to flower girl role as well. yet, JWs use all of these traditions in their marriage ceremonies while, at the same time, condemning people for having Christmas trees. Go figure.
What always gets me is that they are always so condemning of %26quot;pagan%26quot; origins of everything, when the WT org. is so rooted in occult origins, that it isn%26#039;t even funny!
Please share with those of us who don%26#039;t know about the pagan origins of the funeral-related things you mentioned.
Reply:JR:
%26quot;Genesis. 41:42
2 Then Pharaoh took his signet ring from his finger and put it on Joseph%26#039;s finger. He dressed him in robes of fine linen and put a gold chain around his neck
Esther 8:2, 8
2 The king took off his signet ring, which he had reclaimed from Haman, and presented it to Mordecai. And Esther appointed him over Haman%26#039;s estate.
Luke 15:22
22%26quot;But the father said to his servants, %26#039;Quick! Bring the best robe and put it on him. Put a ring on his finger and sandals on his feet.%26quot;
So are you trying to say that these people were married? This sounds like an advocation of gay marriage then.
Reply:--==Wedding Rings==--
The wedding ring is supposed to be of Roman origin, and to have sprung from the ancient custom of using rings in making agreements.%26quot; (American Cyclopædia)
It goes back even further, which God allowed his servants to wear rings.
Genesis. 41:42
2 Then Pharaoh took his signet ring from his finger and put it on Joseph%26#039;s finger. He dressed him in robes of fine linen and put a gold chain around his neck
Numbers 31:50
50 So we have brought as an offering to the LORD the gold articles each of us acquired—armlets, bracelets, signet rings, earrings and necklaces—to make atonement for ourselves before the LORD.%26quot;
Esther 8:2, 8
2 The king took off his signet ring, which he had reclaimed from Haman, and presented it to Mordecai. And Esther appointed him over Haman%26#039;s estate.
Luke 15:22
22%26quot;But the father said to his servants, %26#039;Quick! Bring the best robe and put it on him. Put a ring on his finger and sandals on his feet.
--==Flowers==--
Flowers are for the family.
--==Embalming of the dead==--
If we were preventing the body from decaying, then it would be embalming the dead.
Reply:Good question! I was just thinking about the subject.
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Grandpa's funeral?
I recently found out that my biological%26#039;s father died last wednesday. I found out before the funeral and visitation. I have not seen my grandfather or grandmother since I was 5 and haven%26#039;t talked to them since I was 13. I have not seen my biological father since I was 8, (I%26#039;m 21 now).
My mom found his obituary online and showed it to me. I wasn%26#039;t mentioned at all, (which I have mixed feelings about...although I haven%26#039;t seen the man in 16 years, I%26#039;m still his granddaughter).
I sent a beautiful spray of flowers to the funeral home with a very nice note with the flowers, but I didn%26#039;t go to the funeral, (as I didn%26#039;t think it would be appropriate).
Do you think I did the right thing? I%26#039;ve been very hostile with this side of the family, (as they have ignored me my entire life), and I put those feelings aside. I would LIKE a thank you, but I am not expecting it.
I just simply want some reassurance.
Thanks :)
Grandpa%26#039;s funeral?
You did the right thing. You did a gracious and kind thing. People who have been unkind or uncaring to you, who have not reached out to you or acknowledged you WERE acknowledged by you during their time of grief. You reached out to them.
You sound like a very fine young lady and like your mother raised you to be sensitive and well-mannered - even to people who have not been kind to you.
I would say don%26#039;t wait for their thanks, but hold your head up, knowing you did something that many, many people would never think to do.
It%26#039;s possible that you%26#039;ll get a thank-you note later (it took me a few weeks to write to all the people who went to my mother%26#039;s funeral or sent flowers or a donation in her name). But don%26#039;t wait for it.
When you do something fine and good - which you have done - you build your own character into someone fine and good. You don%26#039;t need thanks. You didn%26#039;t do it to be thanked, acknowledged, praised or recognized. You did it because it was kind and right. Virtue is its own reward.
I think you should say %26#039;thank you%26#039; to someone else instead: to your mother, for raising you to be someone as sensitive and gracious as you are!
Reply:Yes, I think sending a flower spray was very appropriate for the situation. Going to the funeral may have been uncomfortable for both you and the family, but you still expressed your sympathy and thoughts by sending flowers.
I%26#039;m sorry for your loss, and hope you find a thank you in the mail soon! What you did was classy and thoughtful.
Reply:You did the right thing. Sending flowers and a note was fine. I agree with you about the Thank You. Don%26#039;t hold your breath. But, know that in your heart, you sent flowers and a note of sympathy.That is generous considering your past history with the family.
I am sorry for your loss.
Reply:Since you did not feel welcomed by that side of the family, and you were not personally notified of the funeral your attendance was not expected. Sending a bouquet and a note is a very nice and appropriate sign of sympathy.
Reply:Yes, you definitely did the right thing. It has to have been hurtful that you weren%26#039;t mentioned in the obituary, but you%26#039;ve shown more class than the rest of the family has.
Reply:You handled it beautifully. A thank you is in order, but if you do not receive one, don%26#039;t be surprised. Who ever put the obit in the paper should be ashamed to exclude you. I am sorry for your loss.
Reply:Sorry for your loss. I admire you for taking the high road. Don%26#039;t worry about getting a thank you from them...if it comes, great, but if not, please know that we who have posted here are grateful that you did the right thing.
Reply:Yes, you showed true dignity by sending the flowers. You can never go wrong by taking the high road. Sounds like you%26#039;ve grown up to be a wonderful person with out them!
Reply:It is ok. Your absence wasn%26#039;t going to surprise anyone, and it could not have changed anything.
Reply:That was very nice of you to send flowers. I often do not receive an acknowledgement for what I send in memory of a person, depending on who the survivors are. Sometimes they are too bereft and/or do not know the protocol of sending thank you acknowledgements, either printed or written by hand. So dont be measuring anything by whether you recieve a thank you ( although it is proper to send one) The dynamics of your family situation are hard on everyone and you probably do not know all of the details of who said and did what in the past . But you seem to be rising above it all and are willing to move past %26#039; the past%26#039; and start today with what time is left. Since after all, soon it will be you and all of us who are going to be dead. I salute your putting the feelings of hostility aside as they only eat away at one. It is good you formulate your OWN relationship with your grandparents and perhaps in a week or so call them and say you are thinking of them and is there anything they need. I wouldnt involve your mother in this at all. She has her own experience and needs in this but yours should be separate. Maybe you will be able to see them.I wouldnt mention about why you didnt attend or that you didnt attend the service, since that is over with and does not need to be made an issue of.
Reply:I think what you did was fine. As for the thank you, it%26#039;s the right thing for them to do, but I hope you didn%26#039;t send the flowers expecting it. Don%26#039;t get upset if it doesn%26#039;t come; they haven%26#039;t done the right thing so far.
That being said, maybe this is a good time to reach out and try to make peace. Sending those flowers was a good start, maybe you could follow it up with a phone call. By rights, it should come from them, but you can choose to be the grown up here and make the first couple of steps, if you want to. I had almost n contact with my Dad or his side of the family when I was younger, but started to interact with them a little bit here and there once I turned 18. It%26#039;s hard, there are a lot of hurt feelings on my part, but I really want to make this work for my own sake, so I%26#039;m trying.
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My mom found his obituary online and showed it to me. I wasn%26#039;t mentioned at all, (which I have mixed feelings about...although I haven%26#039;t seen the man in 16 years, I%26#039;m still his granddaughter).
I sent a beautiful spray of flowers to the funeral home with a very nice note with the flowers, but I didn%26#039;t go to the funeral, (as I didn%26#039;t think it would be appropriate).
Do you think I did the right thing? I%26#039;ve been very hostile with this side of the family, (as they have ignored me my entire life), and I put those feelings aside. I would LIKE a thank you, but I am not expecting it.
I just simply want some reassurance.
Thanks :)
Grandpa%26#039;s funeral?
You did the right thing. You did a gracious and kind thing. People who have been unkind or uncaring to you, who have not reached out to you or acknowledged you WERE acknowledged by you during their time of grief. You reached out to them.
You sound like a very fine young lady and like your mother raised you to be sensitive and well-mannered - even to people who have not been kind to you.
I would say don%26#039;t wait for their thanks, but hold your head up, knowing you did something that many, many people would never think to do.
It%26#039;s possible that you%26#039;ll get a thank-you note later (it took me a few weeks to write to all the people who went to my mother%26#039;s funeral or sent flowers or a donation in her name). But don%26#039;t wait for it.
When you do something fine and good - which you have done - you build your own character into someone fine and good. You don%26#039;t need thanks. You didn%26#039;t do it to be thanked, acknowledged, praised or recognized. You did it because it was kind and right. Virtue is its own reward.
I think you should say %26#039;thank you%26#039; to someone else instead: to your mother, for raising you to be someone as sensitive and gracious as you are!
Reply:Yes, I think sending a flower spray was very appropriate for the situation. Going to the funeral may have been uncomfortable for both you and the family, but you still expressed your sympathy and thoughts by sending flowers.
I%26#039;m sorry for your loss, and hope you find a thank you in the mail soon! What you did was classy and thoughtful.
Reply:You did the right thing. Sending flowers and a note was fine. I agree with you about the Thank You. Don%26#039;t hold your breath. But, know that in your heart, you sent flowers and a note of sympathy.That is generous considering your past history with the family.
I am sorry for your loss.
Reply:Since you did not feel welcomed by that side of the family, and you were not personally notified of the funeral your attendance was not expected. Sending a bouquet and a note is a very nice and appropriate sign of sympathy.
Reply:Yes, you definitely did the right thing. It has to have been hurtful that you weren%26#039;t mentioned in the obituary, but you%26#039;ve shown more class than the rest of the family has.
Reply:You handled it beautifully. A thank you is in order, but if you do not receive one, don%26#039;t be surprised. Who ever put the obit in the paper should be ashamed to exclude you. I am sorry for your loss.
Reply:Sorry for your loss. I admire you for taking the high road. Don%26#039;t worry about getting a thank you from them...if it comes, great, but if not, please know that we who have posted here are grateful that you did the right thing.
Reply:Yes, you showed true dignity by sending the flowers. You can never go wrong by taking the high road. Sounds like you%26#039;ve grown up to be a wonderful person with out them!
Reply:It is ok. Your absence wasn%26#039;t going to surprise anyone, and it could not have changed anything.
Reply:That was very nice of you to send flowers. I often do not receive an acknowledgement for what I send in memory of a person, depending on who the survivors are. Sometimes they are too bereft and/or do not know the protocol of sending thank you acknowledgements, either printed or written by hand. So dont be measuring anything by whether you recieve a thank you ( although it is proper to send one) The dynamics of your family situation are hard on everyone and you probably do not know all of the details of who said and did what in the past . But you seem to be rising above it all and are willing to move past %26#039; the past%26#039; and start today with what time is left. Since after all, soon it will be you and all of us who are going to be dead. I salute your putting the feelings of hostility aside as they only eat away at one. It is good you formulate your OWN relationship with your grandparents and perhaps in a week or so call them and say you are thinking of them and is there anything they need. I wouldnt involve your mother in this at all. She has her own experience and needs in this but yours should be separate. Maybe you will be able to see them.I wouldnt mention about why you didnt attend or that you didnt attend the service, since that is over with and does not need to be made an issue of.
Reply:I think what you did was fine. As for the thank you, it%26#039;s the right thing for them to do, but I hope you didn%26#039;t send the flowers expecting it. Don%26#039;t get upset if it doesn%26#039;t come; they haven%26#039;t done the right thing so far.
That being said, maybe this is a good time to reach out and try to make peace. Sending those flowers was a good start, maybe you could follow it up with a phone call. By rights, it should come from them, but you can choose to be the grown up here and make the first couple of steps, if you want to. I had almost n contact with my Dad or his side of the family when I was younger, but started to interact with them a little bit here and there once I turned 18. It%26#039;s hard, there are a lot of hurt feelings on my part, but I really want to make this work for my own sake, so I%26#039;m trying.
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Where did the tradition of sending flowers at funerals arise from?
The Egyptians. They aromafied the air for the deceased and also burned scented oils. Hail the Lotus Flower... For it was the first to be reconise as a sacred plant!
Where did the tradition of sending flowers at funerals arise from?
the roman goddess flora. the greeks started the whole thing from there myths and legends
Reply:Flower pollens have been unearthed in almost every ancient grave that has been discovered...so the answer is, people have been putting flowers on graves from a time well before any records have survived. Its a gesture of hope in a rebirth. Plants dies every year in winter adn are reborn again in spring...a powerful idea to primitive man.
Reply:I dont know but a lot of countries bury there dead the same day
Reply:Plants and flowers are symbols of life. They are given with the hope that the deceased will find a new life in the next world.
Reply:It%26#039;s only a tradition, on significance at all.
Reply:I believe it was to cover the smell of the dead. I don%26#039;t know who started it.
Reply:Archeologists are always digging up graves where flowers were buried with the person. Even the very primitive people, before actual recorded history, did this. So I guess it%26#039;s something that just %26quot;stuck%26quot; with people.
Reply:I think it%26#039;s just like..flowers are sweet smelling, and considered very..wonderful. So it%26#039;s like, if you love someone, you send them flowers. Even if they%26#039;re dead...it%26#039;s a respect/love thing. At least, that%26#039;s my guess.
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Where did the tradition of sending flowers at funerals arise from?
the roman goddess flora. the greeks started the whole thing from there myths and legends
Reply:Flower pollens have been unearthed in almost every ancient grave that has been discovered...so the answer is, people have been putting flowers on graves from a time well before any records have survived. Its a gesture of hope in a rebirth. Plants dies every year in winter adn are reborn again in spring...a powerful idea to primitive man.
Reply:I dont know but a lot of countries bury there dead the same day
Reply:Plants and flowers are symbols of life. They are given with the hope that the deceased will find a new life in the next world.
Reply:It%26#039;s only a tradition, on significance at all.
Reply:I believe it was to cover the smell of the dead. I don%26#039;t know who started it.
Reply:Archeologists are always digging up graves where flowers were buried with the person. Even the very primitive people, before actual recorded history, did this. So I guess it%26#039;s something that just %26quot;stuck%26quot; with people.
Reply:I think it%26#039;s just like..flowers are sweet smelling, and considered very..wonderful. So it%26#039;s like, if you love someone, you send them flowers. Even if they%26#039;re dead...it%26#039;s a respect/love thing. At least, that%26#039;s my guess.
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What is the culture behind using FLOWERS at FUNERALS?
because just as the deceased, flowers represent the cycle of life and death. plus, it%26#039;s a gift, respect, a way to feel like you are honoring someone important to you. I dont know where, why, or how it started though, if that%26#039;s what you are asking.
What is the culture behind using FLOWERS at FUNERALS?
Dates back to the time before we knew how to embalm; sometimes the deceased got a little odiferous before everyone could be assembed for the burial. Flowers covered the smell
Reply:why do u look so angry??
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What is the culture behind using FLOWERS at FUNERALS?
Dates back to the time before we knew how to embalm; sometimes the deceased got a little odiferous before everyone could be assembed for the burial. Flowers covered the smell
Reply:why do u look so angry??
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Why do people give flowers at funerals?
i would like to know if there is some myth, supersition, legend or anything like that to this.
Why do people give flowers at funerals?
There is an old fable you can call it that goes back literally hundreds of years, %26quot;Where there is death new life begins%26quot; and when people would die there relitives would plant a tree or bush over where the body was laid to rest and the roots of that plant would feed of the decaying body kind of like fertilizer so the plant would always flourish, so %26quot;Where there is death a new life begins%26quot; is represented by the giving of flowers.
Reply:Flowers are eternal wayu to express LOVE
Reply:it is supposed to be nice .but the idea itself means happiness for him dying
Reply:It is a tradition, formed from days before embalming bodies was common. They would place the deceased on the dining room table and wait for the relatives to show up. A wake was three days. This was the time they waited to make sure the deceased was dead. Sometimes they actually DID wake.
There were no EEG scans or heart monitors back then. Well, anyway, sometimes the body would start to smell a little (or a lot). Thus the reason for the strong scented flowers piled around the body. It became a custom to send flowers, and we still do it to this day.
Reply:burial sites from over 100,000 years ago have flowers on them. seems like a VERY long tradition.
I believe it is the ashes to ashes thing - flowers bloom from the body being buried and returning to soil...
Reply:It seems that our life is like and similar to flower, flowers are beautiful, but they have really short life time, this can be a symbol that every good thing in this world, will pass soon. this may be consolation for remainings.
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Why do people give flowers at funerals?
There is an old fable you can call it that goes back literally hundreds of years, %26quot;Where there is death new life begins%26quot; and when people would die there relitives would plant a tree or bush over where the body was laid to rest and the roots of that plant would feed of the decaying body kind of like fertilizer so the plant would always flourish, so %26quot;Where there is death a new life begins%26quot; is represented by the giving of flowers.
Reply:Flowers are eternal wayu to express LOVE
Reply:it is supposed to be nice .but the idea itself means happiness for him dying
Reply:It is a tradition, formed from days before embalming bodies was common. They would place the deceased on the dining room table and wait for the relatives to show up. A wake was three days. This was the time they waited to make sure the deceased was dead. Sometimes they actually DID wake.
There were no EEG scans or heart monitors back then. Well, anyway, sometimes the body would start to smell a little (or a lot). Thus the reason for the strong scented flowers piled around the body. It became a custom to send flowers, and we still do it to this day.
Reply:burial sites from over 100,000 years ago have flowers on them. seems like a VERY long tradition.
I believe it is the ashes to ashes thing - flowers bloom from the body being buried and returning to soil...
Reply:It seems that our life is like and similar to flower, flowers are beautiful, but they have really short life time, this can be a symbol that every good thing in this world, will pass soon. this may be consolation for remainings.
White Teeth
What is the traditional flower for funerals or what funeral represents death?
The lily flower symbolizes death and is the flower traditionally used for funerals and coffins.
What is the traditional flower for funerals or what funeral represents death?
Black Baccara Roses
Reply:Does it really matter what is tradition for a funeral regarding flowers?. At my granparents funeral, i gave flowers that they liked whilst they were here, its much more meaningful.
Reply:White lillies. Still feels odd to see them at a wedding as it just feels wrong! Or black flowers. It%26#039;s still seen as bad luck to bring red and white flowers to a patient in hospital (%26#039;blood and bandages%26#039;, perhaps that also applies to funerals.
Many crematoriums have rose gardens and plant a rose bush over the ashes, so the rose also has some more modern associations.
Reply:The lily is the most recognized flower for funerals, then the mum,
rose, and peace lily(whole plant). And all funerals represent death.
Reply:Lilies i think
Reply:There was once a show on TV called, %26#039;The Munsters%26#039;.
The mother on the show was called, %26#039;Lily%26#039;, and she want to sleep every night holding a white lily.
Lily took %26#039;sleep%26#039; very seriously.
Marea
Reply:It always used to be white lillies, but people use these for weddings as well now.
Reply:A White Lilly is often a representation of death.
Reply:White Lilies are associated with funerals but they are becoming common for other things now like weddings.
Reply:I have known a lot of people who wouldn%26#039;t have Lily of the Valley in the house as they regarded this as the flower of death and therefore funerals. I personally am very superstitious and wouldn%26#039;t have them in the house either.
Reply:White flowers tend to symbolise purity so they are often used as funeral flowers. Lilies in particular are associated with funerals and thus are often feared by the superstitious. Lilies represent the pure soul from the sinful body. In the language of flowers, they mean reverent purity and are often used at weddings as well. White flowers with hanging heads, like snowdrops, white lilac or lily-of-the-valley are less liked. They are said to represent sorrow and in some areas are considered death omens. White roses are used for funerals of a spouse as roses always symbolise love. Traditionally, white roses were used for a woman who died a virgin
Other flowers that represent remembrance are also appropriate. Rosemary and forget-me not are the best known of these. White chrysanthemum are occasionally used for children because of the link to Holy Innocent%26#039;s Day, when Herod ordered the murder of the firstborn. They are widely used as funeral flowers in Europe.
Today, I believe the favourite flowers of the departed are often used. For a special message, you could consult the language of flowers, as each flower was assigned a message during times when love was tempered by modesty.
Reply:I think most people tend to go with what they like flower wise these days for funerals though red roses are quite popular, people did used to have a preference for white lilies or chrysanthemum%26#039;s at one time for tradition, some people say putting red and white flowers together represents death/bad luck.
Reply:White flowers for virgins.
I guess roses and black flowers for everyone else.
Reply:Calla Lillies I think. They use a lot of flowers now. I%26#039;ve seen red roses used to express love for the one who passed.
Reply:Almost any flower can be use. It depends on the color which has the meaning you want to represent.
EX. Like white for pure, black for sorrow and green for a new start.
Reply:Arum lillies (I think that%26#039;s how you spell it)
Reply:It differs from country to country. In Russia it%26#039;s carnation, in France chrysanthemum.
Reply:the lilly is the flower of funerals
Reply:white Lillie%26#039;s ..but now adays anything goes .. ....can be the person who has died favourite flower the colour of the seasons your own preferences ...time has moved on even in death
Reply:Water Lily!
Reply:you will see alot of red, pink, and white carnations mixed in with various other flowers these days....it used to be mainly lillies.....folklore insists on the deep purple rose....so deep that it can be mistaken for black.......you can have whatever you like at your funeral, or send whatever flowers that you feel might resonate with the recipient.......I am going to request that my roses either be a deep deep purple or dyed black........
Reply:a lily
Reply:lilies i love them anyway though
Reply:It depends on the region; traditiosn change with each region. For example, in Mexico we use crysanthemums.
Reply:At length he saw, moving along the centre aisle, a funeral procession. The little people who crowded the aisle, although they all look very sorrowful, were not dressed in any mourning garmet--so far from it they wore wreaths of little roses, and carried branches of the blossoming myrtle. Richard beheld the bier borne between six--whether men or worn he could not tell--but he saw that the face of the corpse was that of a beautiful female, smaller than the smallest child%26#039;s doll. It was, Richard said, %26quot;as if it were a dead seraph,%26quot;--so very lovely did it appear to him. The body was covered with white flowers, and its hair, like gold threads, was tangled amongst the blossoms. The body was placed within the altar; and then a large pat of men, with picks and spades, began to dig a little hole close by the sacramental table. Their task being completed, others, with great care, removed the body and placed it in the hole. The entire company crowded around, eager to catch a parting glimpse of that beautiful corpse ere yet it was placed in the earth. As was lowered into the ground they began to tear off the flowers and break their branches of myrtle, crying: %26quot;Our queen is dead! our queen is dead!%26quot; At length one of the men who had dug the grave threw a shovelful of earth upon the body; and the shriek of the fairy host so alarm Richard, that he involuntarily joined in it In a moment all the lights were extinguished, and the fairies were heard flying in great consternation in every direction.
Reply:white lilly and every funeral represents death
Reply:Chrysanthemum, especially in Japan..
Reply:It%26#039;s normally Carnations or Lillies. I happen to like both but my definite favourite are Lillies.
Reply:arum lilies
Reply:I%26#039;d say water lilies because they extend to the sun from the murk or the marshy waters... it is a symbol of change and achievement.
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What is the traditional flower for funerals or what funeral represents death?
Black Baccara Roses
Reply:Does it really matter what is tradition for a funeral regarding flowers?. At my granparents funeral, i gave flowers that they liked whilst they were here, its much more meaningful.
Reply:White lillies. Still feels odd to see them at a wedding as it just feels wrong! Or black flowers. It%26#039;s still seen as bad luck to bring red and white flowers to a patient in hospital (%26#039;blood and bandages%26#039;, perhaps that also applies to funerals.
Many crematoriums have rose gardens and plant a rose bush over the ashes, so the rose also has some more modern associations.
Reply:The lily is the most recognized flower for funerals, then the mum,
rose, and peace lily(whole plant). And all funerals represent death.
Reply:Lilies i think
Reply:There was once a show on TV called, %26#039;The Munsters%26#039;.
The mother on the show was called, %26#039;Lily%26#039;, and she want to sleep every night holding a white lily.
Lily took %26#039;sleep%26#039; very seriously.
Marea
Reply:It always used to be white lillies, but people use these for weddings as well now.
Reply:A White Lilly is often a representation of death.
Reply:White Lilies are associated with funerals but they are becoming common for other things now like weddings.
Reply:I have known a lot of people who wouldn%26#039;t have Lily of the Valley in the house as they regarded this as the flower of death and therefore funerals. I personally am very superstitious and wouldn%26#039;t have them in the house either.
Reply:White flowers tend to symbolise purity so they are often used as funeral flowers. Lilies in particular are associated with funerals and thus are often feared by the superstitious. Lilies represent the pure soul from the sinful body. In the language of flowers, they mean reverent purity and are often used at weddings as well. White flowers with hanging heads, like snowdrops, white lilac or lily-of-the-valley are less liked. They are said to represent sorrow and in some areas are considered death omens. White roses are used for funerals of a spouse as roses always symbolise love. Traditionally, white roses were used for a woman who died a virgin
Other flowers that represent remembrance are also appropriate. Rosemary and forget-me not are the best known of these. White chrysanthemum are occasionally used for children because of the link to Holy Innocent%26#039;s Day, when Herod ordered the murder of the firstborn. They are widely used as funeral flowers in Europe.
Today, I believe the favourite flowers of the departed are often used. For a special message, you could consult the language of flowers, as each flower was assigned a message during times when love was tempered by modesty.
Reply:I think most people tend to go with what they like flower wise these days for funerals though red roses are quite popular, people did used to have a preference for white lilies or chrysanthemum%26#039;s at one time for tradition, some people say putting red and white flowers together represents death/bad luck.
Reply:White flowers for virgins.
I guess roses and black flowers for everyone else.
Reply:Calla Lillies I think. They use a lot of flowers now. I%26#039;ve seen red roses used to express love for the one who passed.
Reply:Almost any flower can be use. It depends on the color which has the meaning you want to represent.
EX. Like white for pure, black for sorrow and green for a new start.
Reply:Arum lillies (I think that%26#039;s how you spell it)
Reply:It differs from country to country. In Russia it%26#039;s carnation, in France chrysanthemum.
Reply:the lilly is the flower of funerals
Reply:white Lillie%26#039;s ..but now adays anything goes .. ....can be the person who has died favourite flower the colour of the seasons your own preferences ...time has moved on even in death
Reply:Water Lily!
Reply:you will see alot of red, pink, and white carnations mixed in with various other flowers these days....it used to be mainly lillies.....folklore insists on the deep purple rose....so deep that it can be mistaken for black.......you can have whatever you like at your funeral, or send whatever flowers that you feel might resonate with the recipient.......I am going to request that my roses either be a deep deep purple or dyed black........
Reply:a lily
Reply:lilies i love them anyway though
Reply:It depends on the region; traditiosn change with each region. For example, in Mexico we use crysanthemums.
Reply:At length he saw, moving along the centre aisle, a funeral procession. The little people who crowded the aisle, although they all look very sorrowful, were not dressed in any mourning garmet--so far from it they wore wreaths of little roses, and carried branches of the blossoming myrtle. Richard beheld the bier borne between six--whether men or worn he could not tell--but he saw that the face of the corpse was that of a beautiful female, smaller than the smallest child%26#039;s doll. It was, Richard said, %26quot;as if it were a dead seraph,%26quot;--so very lovely did it appear to him. The body was covered with white flowers, and its hair, like gold threads, was tangled amongst the blossoms. The body was placed within the altar; and then a large pat of men, with picks and spades, began to dig a little hole close by the sacramental table. Their task being completed, others, with great care, removed the body and placed it in the hole. The entire company crowded around, eager to catch a parting glimpse of that beautiful corpse ere yet it was placed in the earth. As was lowered into the ground they began to tear off the flowers and break their branches of myrtle, crying: %26quot;Our queen is dead! our queen is dead!%26quot; At length one of the men who had dug the grave threw a shovelful of earth upon the body; and the shriek of the fairy host so alarm Richard, that he involuntarily joined in it In a moment all the lights were extinguished, and the fairies were heard flying in great consternation in every direction.
Reply:white lilly and every funeral represents death
Reply:Chrysanthemum, especially in Japan..
Reply:It%26#039;s normally Carnations or Lillies. I happen to like both but my definite favourite are Lillies.
Reply:arum lilies
Reply:I%26#039;d say water lilies because they extend to the sun from the murk or the marshy waters... it is a symbol of change and achievement.
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My great-grandpa died, I live in another state....flowers?
I was going to send flowers to his wake/funeral but flowers die so that%26#039;s depressing! Is there anything else I can send to my family besides flowers for the funeral? He has several children, and over 80 grandchildren (including great-great-great) so I know there will be a lot of flowers there, anyway.
He was a sugar cane farmer who died in bed on Sunday, of natural causes, at the age of 95.
Any suggestions appreciated!
My great-grandpa died, I live in another state....flowers?
there are sites you can go to that will send flowers to the funeral but the make sure that they are not even opened when they get there and they do not die... google it. and make sure it goes with a card!!
Reply:You can call the local florist and ask about potted plants instead of cut flowers. A nice orchid is very tasteful.
If you want to send something to the family instead of something to display at the funeral, I strongly suggest a nice food basket. Many online companies like Harry %26amp; David offer baskets of fruit, and some are even particularly designed for %26quot;sympathy%26quot; occasions. After my grandmother%26#039;s passing, someone sent my mother a lovely basket of various fruits and munchies that provided anti-oxidants and comfort during the grieving period (when many people forget to shop or take care of their own health).
Reply:you can send a basket of fruit
or something from edible arragements.
love that place.
great idea!
sorry about him dying.
Reply:I think a donation to charity is the best thing. That way your great-grandpas death is going to help some one else. He had a good and long life so celebrate his life by helping to make a difference to someone else. Maybe if your not sure of which charity to support you could adopt a child form a third world country in his name, thereby helping the next generation. I hope that was of some help. Sorry for your loss
Reply:Flowers are a one day item and then are donated elsewhere or thrown away. I would suggest just sending a check for $25 to the family for their intentions marked on the check. That way if they want it for a mass or a charity in his name, they will do so and send you a thenk you card.
Reply:I would send a nice note to the children of your great grandfather. That would be your great aunts and uncles. No need to send flowers....there will be a ton of them. And no one knows what to do with the flowers after the funeral. Send a nice note to each explaining who you are and how nice that your great grandfather has such a nice long life and meant so much to so many people.
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He was a sugar cane farmer who died in bed on Sunday, of natural causes, at the age of 95.
Any suggestions appreciated!
My great-grandpa died, I live in another state....flowers?
there are sites you can go to that will send flowers to the funeral but the make sure that they are not even opened when they get there and they do not die... google it. and make sure it goes with a card!!
Reply:You can call the local florist and ask about potted plants instead of cut flowers. A nice orchid is very tasteful.
If you want to send something to the family instead of something to display at the funeral, I strongly suggest a nice food basket. Many online companies like Harry %26amp; David offer baskets of fruit, and some are even particularly designed for %26quot;sympathy%26quot; occasions. After my grandmother%26#039;s passing, someone sent my mother a lovely basket of various fruits and munchies that provided anti-oxidants and comfort during the grieving period (when many people forget to shop or take care of their own health).
Reply:you can send a basket of fruit
or something from edible arragements.
love that place.
great idea!
sorry about him dying.
Reply:I think a donation to charity is the best thing. That way your great-grandpas death is going to help some one else. He had a good and long life so celebrate his life by helping to make a difference to someone else. Maybe if your not sure of which charity to support you could adopt a child form a third world country in his name, thereby helping the next generation. I hope that was of some help. Sorry for your loss
Reply:Flowers are a one day item and then are donated elsewhere or thrown away. I would suggest just sending a check for $25 to the family for their intentions marked on the check. That way if they want it for a mass or a charity in his name, they will do so and send you a thenk you card.
Reply:I would send a nice note to the children of your great grandfather. That would be your great aunts and uncles. No need to send flowers....there will be a ton of them. And no one knows what to do with the flowers after the funeral. Send a nice note to each explaining who you are and how nice that your great grandfather has such a nice long life and meant so much to so many people.
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If an obituary says, in lieu of flowers donations can be made to...?
It means that they don%26#039;t want flowers sent, right? I am so used to sending flowers to funerals that it seems kind of weird. Kind of like when you get an invite to a party, and they say, no gifts please...and then you wonder if they really want them. I don%26#039;t know, should I just make a donation???
If an obituary says, in lieu of flowers donations can be made to...?
Yes, it means they don%26#039;t want flower. Flowers are nice, but once the funeral is over, all of those flowers have to go somewhere. Making a donation to the requested place honors the family and the deceased and the money is put to good use rather than on flowers that will soon die away.
Reply:i would split the difference....make a small donation to the cause and also send a small flower arrangement the the funeral
Reply:They would rather you take the money you would spend on flowers and donate insted so yes I think you should.
Reply:If they are Catholic then go to their parish and say you want to pay for an x amount of dollars for so many Holy masses said for their soul. They office will give you card indicating the days and times of the masses said for the dearly departed. Send the card to the family along with a sympathy card.
If you want to make a donation go ahead.
Reply:Sometimes families get so many flowers that they can%26#039;t handle all of them, and they feel guilty throwing them away. Personally, I don%26#039;t like the donation thing, so if they say no flowers, I send a card.
Reply:Do not send flowers! The family has explicitly asked that people NOT do this. Please respect their wishes and make the donation if you choose to, or just send them a card with a note expressing your condolences. I know from personal experience that sometimes receiving flowers after a death can cause great anxiety. I took all the arrangements directly to the trash, God forgive me -- but I just couldn%26#039;t handle it! People meant well, but it wasn%26#039;t the right thing for me.
Reply:You should do as the family request. Recently a member of our family passed and the family asked that donations be made to to the ACA because she had died of cancer. The funeral home still filled up with flowers and there was no place to take them after because she was cemented and didn%26#039;t go to the cemetery right away.
Reply:If you would have sent flowers, make the donation instead. They are asking for the money to be sent to a charity, right? They are trying to soothe their grief by helping others who are in need.
Reply:it thats what they want then yes. they are probaly asking for donations to help pay for the funeral costs-they are quite expensive, and as pretty as they are, flowers dont pay the bill
Reply:Yes. Make the donation.
Reply:It means NO FLOWERS to the funeral. Our priest limits even the amount of flowers allowed in the sanctuary (weird and wrong, I know). Usually either the family doesn%26#039;t want flowers, or they want to co-ordinate the flowers they have and not have an over abundance. Simply make a donation in their name to a charity, the charity will notify them of your thoughtfulness.
Reply:Yes, just make a donation to where they have asked it sent.
Reply:If you don%26#039;t send flowers, definately make the donation. In Asia, it is more common for people to donate to help defray the funeral costs than buy wreaths. Although the deaseased ex-company etc may send a collective wreath, individuals usually donate to the family. Since the obituary said %26#039;in lieu of flowers%26#039;, you could do either, but a donation is definately more practical, with the cost of a decent funeral these days.
Reply:Yes, make the donation and forget the flowers. Chances are that your donation is going to support a charity that was important in some way to whoever passed away. The donation will serve far better good than a vase of flowers.
Reply:yes, they would really prefer the donation
Reply:Call the local library and donate a book in the deceased name. They will send a card to the family in your name.
Reply:Yes send the donation to where they request. Some people feel the flowers to be wasteful, and they are kind of a pain to deal wish after the services.
Some here have said that the donation is to defray the funeral costs. I have to disagree, it is typically a donation to a charity important to the deceased, particularly a charity related to whatever disease he or she suffered from. Covering the funeral costs would be an exception, although I agree that they tend to be very expensive.
Sorry for your loss.
Reply:Send flower with the donation receipt.
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If an obituary says, in lieu of flowers donations can be made to...?
Yes, it means they don%26#039;t want flower. Flowers are nice, but once the funeral is over, all of those flowers have to go somewhere. Making a donation to the requested place honors the family and the deceased and the money is put to good use rather than on flowers that will soon die away.
Reply:i would split the difference....make a small donation to the cause and also send a small flower arrangement the the funeral
Reply:They would rather you take the money you would spend on flowers and donate insted so yes I think you should.
Reply:If they are Catholic then go to their parish and say you want to pay for an x amount of dollars for so many Holy masses said for their soul. They office will give you card indicating the days and times of the masses said for the dearly departed. Send the card to the family along with a sympathy card.
If you want to make a donation go ahead.
Reply:Sometimes families get so many flowers that they can%26#039;t handle all of them, and they feel guilty throwing them away. Personally, I don%26#039;t like the donation thing, so if they say no flowers, I send a card.
Reply:Do not send flowers! The family has explicitly asked that people NOT do this. Please respect their wishes and make the donation if you choose to, or just send them a card with a note expressing your condolences. I know from personal experience that sometimes receiving flowers after a death can cause great anxiety. I took all the arrangements directly to the trash, God forgive me -- but I just couldn%26#039;t handle it! People meant well, but it wasn%26#039;t the right thing for me.
Reply:You should do as the family request. Recently a member of our family passed and the family asked that donations be made to to the ACA because she had died of cancer. The funeral home still filled up with flowers and there was no place to take them after because she was cemented and didn%26#039;t go to the cemetery right away.
Reply:If you would have sent flowers, make the donation instead. They are asking for the money to be sent to a charity, right? They are trying to soothe their grief by helping others who are in need.
Reply:it thats what they want then yes. they are probaly asking for donations to help pay for the funeral costs-they are quite expensive, and as pretty as they are, flowers dont pay the bill
Reply:Yes. Make the donation.
Reply:It means NO FLOWERS to the funeral. Our priest limits even the amount of flowers allowed in the sanctuary (weird and wrong, I know). Usually either the family doesn%26#039;t want flowers, or they want to co-ordinate the flowers they have and not have an over abundance. Simply make a donation in their name to a charity, the charity will notify them of your thoughtfulness.
Reply:Yes, just make a donation to where they have asked it sent.
Reply:If you don%26#039;t send flowers, definately make the donation. In Asia, it is more common for people to donate to help defray the funeral costs than buy wreaths. Although the deaseased ex-company etc may send a collective wreath, individuals usually donate to the family. Since the obituary said %26#039;in lieu of flowers%26#039;, you could do either, but a donation is definately more practical, with the cost of a decent funeral these days.
Reply:Yes, make the donation and forget the flowers. Chances are that your donation is going to support a charity that was important in some way to whoever passed away. The donation will serve far better good than a vase of flowers.
Reply:yes, they would really prefer the donation
Reply:Call the local library and donate a book in the deceased name. They will send a card to the family in your name.
Reply:Yes send the donation to where they request. Some people feel the flowers to be wasteful, and they are kind of a pain to deal wish after the services.
Some here have said that the donation is to defray the funeral costs. I have to disagree, it is typically a donation to a charity important to the deceased, particularly a charity related to whatever disease he or she suffered from. Covering the funeral costs would be an exception, although I agree that they tend to be very expensive.
Sorry for your loss.
Reply:Send flower with the donation receipt.
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Funeral florist (business name) needed?
I have decided to start my own business from HOME and want help with a company NAME that will go on the side of my delivery van an adverts
I will only be offering flowers for funerals like crosses, hearts, names spelt out with flowers you know the kind of thing I mean
any help with a NAME welcome
Funeral florist (business name) needed?
I would not limit yourself to funerals only. If you get other requests, if you dont do them, just charge a high price and they will go elsewhere. Funeral is kind of a dark word. Necessary, but dark.
Reply:Well I was thinking you could go with Angels Flowers.I think that it is fitting for what you plan on doing.
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I will only be offering flowers for funerals like crosses, hearts, names spelt out with flowers you know the kind of thing I mean
any help with a NAME welcome
Funeral florist (business name) needed?
I would not limit yourself to funerals only. If you get other requests, if you dont do them, just charge a high price and they will go elsewhere. Funeral is kind of a dark word. Necessary, but dark.
Reply:Well I was thinking you could go with Angels Flowers.I think that it is fitting for what you plan on doing.
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What should i write on funeral flower card for a baby girl?
God decided that he needed one more angel in heaven.
What should i write on funeral flower card for a baby girl?
just whats in your heart
Reply:the right words will come to u im so sorry u have to go through something like this (and as for u ktuh_kael go get a life i just hope u dont have to go through some thing like this)
Reply:I%26#039;m sorry for the loss, u could put
Earths little angel gone to be an angel in heaven
Reply:Jesus said, %26quot;Let the little ones come unto Me, and forbid them not - for of such is the Kingdom of Heaven%26quot;
Reply:Sorry for your loss, but I don%26#039;t think we can help you with this one. It has to come from you. It doesn%26#039;t need to be witty or clever -
Best of luck and a speedy grieving process.
Reply:Write what comes into your heart.
It doesn%26#039;t have to be deep or clever just personal.
Reply:Dead babies can%26#039;t take care of themselves. Dead babies can%26#039;t take things off the shelves.
Reply:that is a hard one i would put what ever comes from your heart
Reply:Never mind those heartless bloody bastards.they are sick in the head,excuse my language but they just made me mad.
I agree with something like,god was missing an angel,sleep tight little one.
Reply:Oh god no, That%26#039;s awful
I%26#039;ve been through it too, I had to bury my baby,
Just write I%26#039;m here If there%26#039;s anything I can do.
In my daughters cards my friend wrote:
Keeley-Jade
You will never know
Pain or sorrow
Just love as you lay in the arms of angels
I%26#039;m crying now as I%26#039;m writing this as it still chokes me
Reply:another angel in heaven
Reply:Awwwww how sad..what a shame....
Yes i think it%26#039;s more a personal touch that%26#039;s needed here...say what %26#039;you%26#039; feel....
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What should i write on funeral flower card for a baby girl?
just whats in your heart
Reply:the right words will come to u im so sorry u have to go through something like this (and as for u ktuh_kael go get a life i just hope u dont have to go through some thing like this)
Reply:I%26#039;m sorry for the loss, u could put
Earths little angel gone to be an angel in heaven
Reply:Jesus said, %26quot;Let the little ones come unto Me, and forbid them not - for of such is the Kingdom of Heaven%26quot;
Reply:Sorry for your loss, but I don%26#039;t think we can help you with this one. It has to come from you. It doesn%26#039;t need to be witty or clever -
Best of luck and a speedy grieving process.
Reply:Write what comes into your heart.
It doesn%26#039;t have to be deep or clever just personal.
Reply:Dead babies can%26#039;t take care of themselves. Dead babies can%26#039;t take things off the shelves.
Reply:that is a hard one i would put what ever comes from your heart
Reply:Never mind those heartless bloody bastards.they are sick in the head,excuse my language but they just made me mad.
I agree with something like,god was missing an angel,sleep tight little one.
Reply:Oh god no, That%26#039;s awful
I%26#039;ve been through it too, I had to bury my baby,
Just write I%26#039;m here If there%26#039;s anything I can do.
In my daughters cards my friend wrote:
Keeley-Jade
You will never know
Pain or sorrow
Just love as you lay in the arms of angels
I%26#039;m crying now as I%26#039;m writing this as it still chokes me
Reply:another angel in heaven
Reply:Awwwww how sad..what a shame....
Yes i think it%26#039;s more a personal touch that%26#039;s needed here...say what %26#039;you%26#039; feel....
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Does anyone know,can i make a funeral flower arrangment myself? I cant afford to buy one but?
my sons father died unexpectedly yesterday and i want to make sure that i have a %26quot;daddy%26quot; flower arrangment of some kind at the wake etc...
But, i have very little money so i am trying to figure out if i can make this at home and with little money.
It is disgusting how i feel people way over charge for things surrounding someone%26#039;s death. What about someone poor like me??
I guess im screwed huh??!
Please if anyone has any info on this please let me know ASAP!
Thanks
Does anyone know,can i make a funeral flower arrangment myself? I cant afford to buy one but?
Yes, you can make one yourself, that would actually be more thoughtful! And I%26#039;m sorry about your loss.
Reply:You could do fresh flowers, daisys and carnations are usually less expensive flowers. Or try going to a florist and see if you buy in volume if they can offer some kind of discount.
You may also want to try some artificial flowers. They are ususally very cost effective.
How about avoiding flowers all together, when my grandfather died my siblings and I made a wreath with different fishing tackle since he was an avid fisherman. This was very unique, and was less expensive then the same size flower wreath.
Just know though that a lot of the money for the wreaths/tributes goes to labour costs.
Reply:Is there a craft store like Michaels near you? Look online at sympathy arrangements to get ideas to know what kind you want to make. then deliver to the funeral home early-before the starting time of the wake .Dont carry with you as you enter when the others are present
Reply:No I dought you are a screw up. I am sorry for your families loss. Here is a website.They have a metal emblem that says dad, you can place that in a set of flowers. The piece is only 99 cents. Again I am sorry :-(
http://www.afloral.com/Floral-Supplies/F...
flower
But, i have very little money so i am trying to figure out if i can make this at home and with little money.
It is disgusting how i feel people way over charge for things surrounding someone%26#039;s death. What about someone poor like me??
I guess im screwed huh??!
Please if anyone has any info on this please let me know ASAP!
Thanks
Does anyone know,can i make a funeral flower arrangment myself? I cant afford to buy one but?
Yes, you can make one yourself, that would actually be more thoughtful! And I%26#039;m sorry about your loss.
Reply:You could do fresh flowers, daisys and carnations are usually less expensive flowers. Or try going to a florist and see if you buy in volume if they can offer some kind of discount.
You may also want to try some artificial flowers. They are ususally very cost effective.
How about avoiding flowers all together, when my grandfather died my siblings and I made a wreath with different fishing tackle since he was an avid fisherman. This was very unique, and was less expensive then the same size flower wreath.
Just know though that a lot of the money for the wreaths/tributes goes to labour costs.
Reply:Is there a craft store like Michaels near you? Look online at sympathy arrangements to get ideas to know what kind you want to make. then deliver to the funeral home early-before the starting time of the wake .Dont carry with you as you enter when the others are present
Reply:No I dought you are a screw up. I am sorry for your families loss. Here is a website.They have a metal emblem that says dad, you can place that in a set of flowers. The piece is only 99 cents. Again I am sorry :-(
http://www.afloral.com/Floral-Supplies/F...
flower
What should I write on flower aggrangements at a funeral?
My sister-in-laws step daughter passed away last night, I%26#039;d like to get some flowers sent to the funeral home but have no idea what to put on the note on the arrangment. Any ideas would be great. She is 4 years old.
What should I write on flower aggrangements at a funeral?
CONDOLENCES From: ________ Family
as simple as that
Reply:I think in the tragic case of the death of a little child; the wording should be kept simple....
Express deepest sympathy, LOVE %26amp; prayer for the family.
Something like %26quot;You are in our hearts %26amp; prayers%26quot; is a nice thing to say.
It is very thoughtful of you to send flowers; I know you will end up saying just the right thing.
Reply:Sometimes we do not know why? God takes some of his littlest Angels back to him, but there had to be areason for this. May GOD have her in his keeping and will make her Star shine as bright as it can be.
I, feel so sorry for her Mom, I hope she will have some consolation, of this tragic loss.
On a Funeral Arrangement what you can write is, I will never forget you, and will miss you a lot, Please, be my shining Star and guide me through the rightous paths. Signed it with Love, then your Name.
Reply:%26quot;Deepest Sympathies%26quot; or if you%26#039;re religious %26quot;You%26#039;re in my prayers.%26quot; Also you might include something along the lines of %26quot;If you need anything, don%26#039;t hesitate to call.%26quot; VERY sorry about your loss.
Reply:omg my heart goes out to you, thats awful. i cant help with this sorry
Reply:Oh I am so sorry.
Make it simple...%26quot;With love, _names go here_%26quot;
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What should I write on flower aggrangements at a funeral?
CONDOLENCES From: ________ Family
as simple as that
Reply:I think in the tragic case of the death of a little child; the wording should be kept simple....
Express deepest sympathy, LOVE %26amp; prayer for the family.
Something like %26quot;You are in our hearts %26amp; prayers%26quot; is a nice thing to say.
It is very thoughtful of you to send flowers; I know you will end up saying just the right thing.
Reply:Sometimes we do not know why? God takes some of his littlest Angels back to him, but there had to be areason for this. May GOD have her in his keeping and will make her Star shine as bright as it can be.
I, feel so sorry for her Mom, I hope she will have some consolation, of this tragic loss.
On a Funeral Arrangement what you can write is, I will never forget you, and will miss you a lot, Please, be my shining Star and guide me through the rightous paths. Signed it with Love, then your Name.
Reply:%26quot;Deepest Sympathies%26quot; or if you%26#039;re religious %26quot;You%26#039;re in my prayers.%26quot; Also you might include something along the lines of %26quot;If you need anything, don%26#039;t hesitate to call.%26quot; VERY sorry about your loss.
Reply:omg my heart goes out to you, thats awful. i cant help with this sorry
Reply:Oh I am so sorry.
Make it simple...%26quot;With love, _names go here_%26quot;
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Preserving Flowers?
I want to preserve some flowers from a family members funeral flower arrangement. What is needed to do this?
Preserving Flowers?
Depends on the kind of flowers you are looking to preserve. Some do not dry as well as others.
There are a few products out there that are good for those that don%26#039;t naturally hold up well, but they are something you would have had to purchase already.
Basically you want to hand them upside down in a dark place. Some recommend some kind of sealent or hairspray.
a good source is http://www.driedflowersdirect.com/how_to...
Reply:You have 3 options:
- Hang them upside down to dry
- Buy silicone spray at plant store
- Or press within a heavy book
Reply:It depends on the flowers. If it was a rose the let them dry out. Or if it was another type of flower put them in th refridgorator. There are lots of ways to preserve flowers. Then there%26#039;s the question if you want to press the flowers. If you want to do that then press the flowers in and old phone book, out lots of weight on the book.
Reply:put them in a vase put two aspirins in it they will live longer than usual.
Reply:contact your local florist and ask for referrals for freeze-dryers. They will last forever, without pressing, decolorization, or spoilage.
It%26#039;s costly because the machines required are very++ expensive and the flowers need to be sent off almost immediately, but it is the best possible way to preserve them.
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Preserving Flowers?
Depends on the kind of flowers you are looking to preserve. Some do not dry as well as others.
There are a few products out there that are good for those that don%26#039;t naturally hold up well, but they are something you would have had to purchase already.
Basically you want to hand them upside down in a dark place. Some recommend some kind of sealent or hairspray.
a good source is http://www.driedflowersdirect.com/how_to...
Reply:You have 3 options:
- Hang them upside down to dry
- Buy silicone spray at plant store
- Or press within a heavy book
Reply:It depends on the flowers. If it was a rose the let them dry out. Or if it was another type of flower put them in th refridgorator. There are lots of ways to preserve flowers. Then there%26#039;s the question if you want to press the flowers. If you want to do that then press the flowers in and old phone book, out lots of weight on the book.
Reply:put them in a vase put two aspirins in it they will live longer than usual.
Reply:contact your local florist and ask for referrals for freeze-dryers. They will last forever, without pressing, decolorization, or spoilage.
It%26#039;s costly because the machines required are very++ expensive and the flowers need to be sent off almost immediately, but it is the best possible way to preserve them.
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What can I have sent to the funeral home, it is for a small child, I don't want to just send flowers?
teddy bear
What can I have sent to the funeral home, it is for a small child, I don%26#039;t want to just send flowers?
send them a prayer and your love and if you knew the child send a fond memory. They will need all the prayers and memories they can get now.
Reply:Send flowers and a little teddy bear
Reply:An angel! Precious Moments maybe.
Reply:You should send him a get out of hell free card.
Reply:A balloon bouquet is appropriate for a childs funeral..also a stuffed animal. I%26#039;m sorry for the loss
Reply:A donation to a Children%26#039;s charity in the deceased childs name.
Reply:a small teddy bear or a little angel bear..........
Reply:It%26#039;s alway tough when it%26#039;s child. My dad%26#039;s friend lost his son, they were both really into hunting. So, we sent a buck statue with a fawn standing beside it.
Reply:girl u send him some extra krispy chicken wings with extra patatoes! but seriouly flowers and a get well soon card usually do the trick.
Reply:A deddy...no, no, no. A Teddy-bear.
Reply:first,name of child, and depending, i challenge you to use your imagination. quick notice? THE ONLY THING ANYONE RESPONDING TO THIS QUESTION CAN DO IS OFFER A BRIEF CREATIVE SUGGESTION. mine will be...think of them and...buy a simple toy from the store that you like. write a good thought on a card that first speaks to the love of children and second remembers the parent or aunt/uncle that will read it. And offer your personal service to the lovelost closest person to the child, making sure that you make yourself available even at 3:00 in the morning for all your worth. For this is concern...and this is life, to the reborn friend in need.~daniel~8/18/6
Reply:bring your love with you his or her family will need it all.......gifts are of no use.
Reply:Mostly flowers, you could put in a small stuffed animal. But remember the space is usually limited in the funeral home.
You can call the funeral home if you like and ask them.
You could also send a plant.
I wouldnt send musch to the funeral home though, the family will be so upset over there loss they most likely wont take anything home with them.
NO balloons, unless the family requseted it, they may find it inapropriate.Also the funeral home may not accept them.
Bring dinner or a meal to the family that week instead, or bake some cookies for them later and bging by.
Sorry to hear about the loss.
Reply:Send something that really reminds you of that child...and give it to the parent
Reply:We know that older people are likely to die--we prepare emotionally and by getting life insurance. It%26#039;s more upsetting when a young child dies, and also less likely that the parents are prepared for it.
They probably weren%26#039;t prepared to pay for a funeral, and there may be a lot of medical bills, too, depending on how the child died. My husband was hit by a car once (and lived). Our insurance paid 90%, but that left about $5000 we had to pay. If the family needs it, I%26#039;d send a pretty card with a check to help out with the expenses.
If the family is well off, they still probably don%26#039;t need so many flowers--maybe they would appreciate a donation made to a children%26#039;s hospital or a research center for their child%26#039;s disease.
Reply:A stuffed animal or an arrangement shaped as an angle. Sorry for you lose, may god bless you and that child.
Reply:send food for the Friends and relatives
Reply:I know this may not be a good suggetion... but how about an album of photos of the child, or a big picture frame with artwork and pictures (if you get a hold of any). OR money, as bad as it sounds, is always welcome in a time of need (along with a self-help book?)
Reply:not much to send, its not that you send something as long as you send your condolences
Reply:How sad that this child passed away. My sister owns a flower shop. One client asked her to do a balloon bouquet to Honor a child. The mother was so touched that she went to my sisters shop to thank her in person.
Reply:A small stuffed animal with a plant that the family can take home.
Reply:oh that%26#039;s so sad what happened?? but in any rate you could simply send a card and some money to the parents I%26#039;m sure they could use it. maybe there are some debts from the child and nobody but the wealthy and overly insured and scam artists are prepared for these things. Most regular people live paycheck to paycheck. I suggest get a sympathy card and put a few bucks in there to help them. the child is gone and realistically they can%26#039;t do nothing with some stuffed toys they need money.
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What can I have sent to the funeral home, it is for a small child, I don%26#039;t want to just send flowers?
send them a prayer and your love and if you knew the child send a fond memory. They will need all the prayers and memories they can get now.
Reply:Send flowers and a little teddy bear
Reply:An angel! Precious Moments maybe.
Reply:You should send him a get out of hell free card.
Reply:A balloon bouquet is appropriate for a childs funeral..also a stuffed animal. I%26#039;m sorry for the loss
Reply:A donation to a Children%26#039;s charity in the deceased childs name.
Reply:a small teddy bear or a little angel bear..........
Reply:It%26#039;s alway tough when it%26#039;s child. My dad%26#039;s friend lost his son, they were both really into hunting. So, we sent a buck statue with a fawn standing beside it.
Reply:girl u send him some extra krispy chicken wings with extra patatoes! but seriouly flowers and a get well soon card usually do the trick.
Reply:A deddy...no, no, no. A Teddy-bear.
Reply:first,name of child, and depending, i challenge you to use your imagination. quick notice? THE ONLY THING ANYONE RESPONDING TO THIS QUESTION CAN DO IS OFFER A BRIEF CREATIVE SUGGESTION. mine will be...think of them and...buy a simple toy from the store that you like. write a good thought on a card that first speaks to the love of children and second remembers the parent or aunt/uncle that will read it. And offer your personal service to the lovelost closest person to the child, making sure that you make yourself available even at 3:00 in the morning for all your worth. For this is concern...and this is life, to the reborn friend in need.~daniel~8/18/6
Reply:bring your love with you his or her family will need it all.......gifts are of no use.
Reply:Mostly flowers, you could put in a small stuffed animal. But remember the space is usually limited in the funeral home.
You can call the funeral home if you like and ask them.
You could also send a plant.
I wouldnt send musch to the funeral home though, the family will be so upset over there loss they most likely wont take anything home with them.
NO balloons, unless the family requseted it, they may find it inapropriate.Also the funeral home may not accept them.
Bring dinner or a meal to the family that week instead, or bake some cookies for them later and bging by.
Sorry to hear about the loss.
Reply:Send something that really reminds you of that child...and give it to the parent
Reply:We know that older people are likely to die--we prepare emotionally and by getting life insurance. It%26#039;s more upsetting when a young child dies, and also less likely that the parents are prepared for it.
They probably weren%26#039;t prepared to pay for a funeral, and there may be a lot of medical bills, too, depending on how the child died. My husband was hit by a car once (and lived). Our insurance paid 90%, but that left about $5000 we had to pay. If the family needs it, I%26#039;d send a pretty card with a check to help out with the expenses.
If the family is well off, they still probably don%26#039;t need so many flowers--maybe they would appreciate a donation made to a children%26#039;s hospital or a research center for their child%26#039;s disease.
Reply:A stuffed animal or an arrangement shaped as an angle. Sorry for you lose, may god bless you and that child.
Reply:send food for the Friends and relatives
Reply:I know this may not be a good suggetion... but how about an album of photos of the child, or a big picture frame with artwork and pictures (if you get a hold of any). OR money, as bad as it sounds, is always welcome in a time of need (along with a self-help book?)
Reply:not much to send, its not that you send something as long as you send your condolences
Reply:How sad that this child passed away. My sister owns a flower shop. One client asked her to do a balloon bouquet to Honor a child. The mother was so touched that she went to my sisters shop to thank her in person.
Reply:A small stuffed animal with a plant that the family can take home.
Reply:oh that%26#039;s so sad what happened?? but in any rate you could simply send a card and some money to the parents I%26#039;m sure they could use it. maybe there are some debts from the child and nobody but the wealthy and overly insured and scam artists are prepared for these things. Most regular people live paycheck to paycheck. I suggest get a sympathy card and put a few bucks in there to help them. the child is gone and realistically they can%26#039;t do nothing with some stuffed toys they need money.
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Friday 7Th December I'm going to a funeral not sure but do i need to send a wreath/flowers?
might sound a retarded question but seriously i really don%26#039;t know
Friday 7Th December I%26#039;m going to a funeral not sure but do i need to send a wreath/flowers?
Here in Scotland anyway one usually goes along with the wishes of the immediate family, unless you are quite a close relative and wish to send a floral tribute. Often if there is a death announcement in the newspaper and it was the wish of the deceased person not to have flowers it says so. I do think a card would be appropriate. At a Roman Catholic Funeral it would normally be a Mass Card (a special card signed by a priest and although not absolutely necessary usually a small donation is enclosed with it for the priest) although it you are not of the same faith a Sympathy Card would still be much appreciated. With most other religions a Sympathy card is always appreciated. Often also in a newspaper announcement or on arrival at the church/crematorium etc if the family wish donations to a particular charity they let it be known and there is normally a box somewhere. However, this would be a voluntary donation and only if someone wished to give. Black is no longer necessary to wear at funerals but I must admit recently it seems many people still do attend in black or dark colours as a sign of respect. Hope this has helped.
Reply:You don%26#039;t need to send anything. We went to a funeral recently, brought a bouquet of Lillie%26#039;s and placed them at the casket. Our next friend was cremated; we sent a donation to his favourite charity.
No need to send anything really, your presence and attention to your friend%26#039;s family is all that is what is required if you feel you need to do this.
This is a personal time for you as well, you do what you wish.
Remember, they are in your mind and heart forever.
Good wishes.
Reply:No you don%26#039;t need to send flowers but a card is nice.
My brother%26#039;s death last yr was the same, unexplained and investigated and we had to wait for the autopsy- It%26#039;s hard.
The greatest gift you can give is your presence and support.
I%26#039;m sorry for your loss.
Reply:It depends how close you were to the deceased, and only you know that.
Why not go to a good florist and ask them? They%26#039;ll be experienced in that kind of thing.
If you really can%26#039;t decide, then send flowers anyway. They won%26#039;t be un-appreciated.
Reply:The customary practice is to send flowers through a florist beforehand. However, when a close friend of ours died suddenly of a heart attack we just took a dozen or so little pots of cyclamen for the tables at the %26#039;wake%26#039;. When my mother died, I saw her the day before her funeral, and I put some beautifully scented freesias in her coffin. To this day I still cannot buy freesias.
But yes, to be %26#039;correct%26#039; send some flowers through a florist. Or just go with a simple bouquet of beautiful and unusual flowers and ask for them to be placed on a coffin. I have been to so many funerals in my life that I think they are now relatively %26#039;etiquette-free%26#039; - just do what your heart tells you. Go out into the fields and hedgerows and pick anything lovely.
Reply:Flowers are usually sent by family and friends - but there%26#039;s no obligation to.
Did you know the person well? If you want to send some, then do. A lot of people these days give the option of donating to a specified charity instead - if you feel you can%26#039;t ask the family then ask the funeral director instead.
Reply:Usually flowers/wreaths are given by immediate family members. You didn%26#039;t say how close you were with the deceased or their family. A sympathy card is appropriate, and you could put $20.00/$25.00 in it if you want to help the family with expenses, especially if you are attending a funeral luncheon . There usually is a rack or drop box type thing at the front of the funeral parlor to insert the card. If you are not real close to the family, like a relative or even distant relative, your presence will be enough to help with the family%26#039;s mourning.
Reply:Usually the person%26#039;s family prefer to have a donation made to a charity of their choice. (If the person died of cancer they may want donations to go to Cancer Research instead of a wreath/flowers...much better idea.)
Reply:not really that necessary...I can%26#039;t remember a single person that sent flowers or made a donation to cancer or heart research (which we asked for in lieu of flowers) but I can remember many who were present at the service we had for my mom.
Reply:Not unless you want to. Most families are most happy you just take the time to attend.
Reply:If you%26#039;re a family member, close cousin, aunt, uncle, etc., or a really close friend, you would send flowers. If you%26#039;re a family member but not close or a friend but not close, you can buy a sympathy card and put money inside, or sometimes at the wake they have cards that you can put money inside. If you don%26#039;t do flowers or money a Mass Card, or a benefit card ex: the Cancer Society, The National Heart Foundation, generally people will donate to the foundation that represents the disease the person may have passed away from, which will either be listed in the newspaper or you can call the funeral home to get extended information.
Reply:Hi you could always ask if the family would like a donation to a charity in stead
Reply:It is a nice gesture but not necessary. Also you could give to charity and have them send a note to the family... kind of nice since they will have so many flowers and plants already.
Reply:Find out from a member of the family whether they would like flowers or a donation to a certain charity they or the departed may have supported in the past.
Reply:Do something useful and make a donation as most funerals often have collections for donation to specific charities, in my fathers case, donations were given to cancer research, other funerals I have been to were given to other cancer charities or the persons favourite charity.
Reply:No, the flowers are usually already sorted out by the next of kin.
Reply:They keep bodies that long where you live ???????
Reply:it%26#039;s never easy knowing which etiquette to follow for funerals,if the person was well known to you personally,then i would say yes if not then a sympathy card would be ok,the other thing is has the deceased%26#039;s family requested no flowers,but donations to a particular charity instead,but the main thing to remember is you attendence at the funeral,will be more significant to the family,i hope this helpsyou,
fitness
Friday 7Th December I%26#039;m going to a funeral not sure but do i need to send a wreath/flowers?
Here in Scotland anyway one usually goes along with the wishes of the immediate family, unless you are quite a close relative and wish to send a floral tribute. Often if there is a death announcement in the newspaper and it was the wish of the deceased person not to have flowers it says so. I do think a card would be appropriate. At a Roman Catholic Funeral it would normally be a Mass Card (a special card signed by a priest and although not absolutely necessary usually a small donation is enclosed with it for the priest) although it you are not of the same faith a Sympathy Card would still be much appreciated. With most other religions a Sympathy card is always appreciated. Often also in a newspaper announcement or on arrival at the church/crematorium etc if the family wish donations to a particular charity they let it be known and there is normally a box somewhere. However, this would be a voluntary donation and only if someone wished to give. Black is no longer necessary to wear at funerals but I must admit recently it seems many people still do attend in black or dark colours as a sign of respect. Hope this has helped.
Reply:You don%26#039;t need to send anything. We went to a funeral recently, brought a bouquet of Lillie%26#039;s and placed them at the casket. Our next friend was cremated; we sent a donation to his favourite charity.
No need to send anything really, your presence and attention to your friend%26#039;s family is all that is what is required if you feel you need to do this.
This is a personal time for you as well, you do what you wish.
Remember, they are in your mind and heart forever.
Good wishes.
Reply:No you don%26#039;t need to send flowers but a card is nice.
My brother%26#039;s death last yr was the same, unexplained and investigated and we had to wait for the autopsy- It%26#039;s hard.
The greatest gift you can give is your presence and support.
I%26#039;m sorry for your loss.
Reply:It depends how close you were to the deceased, and only you know that.
Why not go to a good florist and ask them? They%26#039;ll be experienced in that kind of thing.
If you really can%26#039;t decide, then send flowers anyway. They won%26#039;t be un-appreciated.
Reply:The customary practice is to send flowers through a florist beforehand. However, when a close friend of ours died suddenly of a heart attack we just took a dozen or so little pots of cyclamen for the tables at the %26#039;wake%26#039;. When my mother died, I saw her the day before her funeral, and I put some beautifully scented freesias in her coffin. To this day I still cannot buy freesias.
But yes, to be %26#039;correct%26#039; send some flowers through a florist. Or just go with a simple bouquet of beautiful and unusual flowers and ask for them to be placed on a coffin. I have been to so many funerals in my life that I think they are now relatively %26#039;etiquette-free%26#039; - just do what your heart tells you. Go out into the fields and hedgerows and pick anything lovely.
Reply:Flowers are usually sent by family and friends - but there%26#039;s no obligation to.
Did you know the person well? If you want to send some, then do. A lot of people these days give the option of donating to a specified charity instead - if you feel you can%26#039;t ask the family then ask the funeral director instead.
Reply:Usually flowers/wreaths are given by immediate family members. You didn%26#039;t say how close you were with the deceased or their family. A sympathy card is appropriate, and you could put $20.00/$25.00 in it if you want to help the family with expenses, especially if you are attending a funeral luncheon . There usually is a rack or drop box type thing at the front of the funeral parlor to insert the card. If you are not real close to the family, like a relative or even distant relative, your presence will be enough to help with the family%26#039;s mourning.
Reply:Usually the person%26#039;s family prefer to have a donation made to a charity of their choice. (If the person died of cancer they may want donations to go to Cancer Research instead of a wreath/flowers...much better idea.)
Reply:not really that necessary...I can%26#039;t remember a single person that sent flowers or made a donation to cancer or heart research (which we asked for in lieu of flowers) but I can remember many who were present at the service we had for my mom.
Reply:Not unless you want to. Most families are most happy you just take the time to attend.
Reply:If you%26#039;re a family member, close cousin, aunt, uncle, etc., or a really close friend, you would send flowers. If you%26#039;re a family member but not close or a friend but not close, you can buy a sympathy card and put money inside, or sometimes at the wake they have cards that you can put money inside. If you don%26#039;t do flowers or money a Mass Card, or a benefit card ex: the Cancer Society, The National Heart Foundation, generally people will donate to the foundation that represents the disease the person may have passed away from, which will either be listed in the newspaper or you can call the funeral home to get extended information.
Reply:Hi you could always ask if the family would like a donation to a charity in stead
Reply:It is a nice gesture but not necessary. Also you could give to charity and have them send a note to the family... kind of nice since they will have so many flowers and plants already.
Reply:Find out from a member of the family whether they would like flowers or a donation to a certain charity they or the departed may have supported in the past.
Reply:Do something useful and make a donation as most funerals often have collections for donation to specific charities, in my fathers case, donations were given to cancer research, other funerals I have been to were given to other cancer charities or the persons favourite charity.
Reply:No, the flowers are usually already sorted out by the next of kin.
Reply:They keep bodies that long where you live ???????
Reply:it%26#039;s never easy knowing which etiquette to follow for funerals,if the person was well known to you personally,then i would say yes if not then a sympathy card would be ok,the other thing is has the deceased%26#039;s family requested no flowers,but donations to a particular charity instead,but the main thing to remember is you attendence at the funeral,will be more significant to the family,i hope this helpsyou,
fitness
Where can i find the wording for a funeral card asking for donations to a charity in lew of flowers.?
AT A FUNERAL DIRECTORS OFFICE...
Where can i find the wording for a funeral card asking for donations to a charity in lew of flowers.?
Peolpe are going to get flowers no matter what you say. It is like having a birthday party and asking no presents.
However, just put a note at the bottom that there is a memorial fund set up at xxx in xxx%26#039;s name in lew of flowers.
That simple.
Reply:I am not sure what a %26quot;funeral card%26quot; is, but the funeral home should be able to assist you.
Reply:In lieu of flowers, we ask that donations be made to %26quot;name of charity%26quot;, in honor of %26quot;Name of the deceased%26quot;
Reply:As others have said, the funeral director will be able to assist you.
I have been to several funerals where there is wording on the card that says something like this:
%26quot;The family of Aunt Tillie request that, in lieu of flowers, a contribution be made to the ASPCA, Aunt Tillie%26#039;s favorite charity.%26quot;
This is also usually printed at the end of the obituary in the paper....
By the time folks come for calling hours or a wake, they have already sent flowers. So it is important to have it in the paper...
I%26#039;m sorry for your loss and hope that this helps...
Reg
Reply:Wow, nice sentiment. Why don%26#039;t you simply write your own words? You could express yourself better than a commercially produced card. Hope this helps.
Reply:look at other people%26#039;s obituaries.
Reply:at a funeral home
Reply:In Lieu of flowers, a memorial fund has been established for ___________ at __________________.
In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to _________________ in ________________ name.
Reply:This has happened so %26quot;Unexpectedly%26quot; we were caught right in the middle of a %26quot;Financial%26quot; crunch, and regret having to ask everyone, for some sort of %26quot;Contribution%26quot;, to help, with some of the %26quot;Financial-Burdens%26quot;, for this Heart-breaking, time.....Any Kind of contributions, will not go, unnoticed, or unappreciated.........(Then, end it, we just cant thank-you, enough)...
Reply:You can just add a little line at the bottom of the card. %26quot;The family of ______________ request that a donation be made to _____________ in lieu of flowers. Thank you.%26quot;
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Where can i find the wording for a funeral card asking for donations to a charity in lew of flowers.?
Peolpe are going to get flowers no matter what you say. It is like having a birthday party and asking no presents.
However, just put a note at the bottom that there is a memorial fund set up at xxx in xxx%26#039;s name in lew of flowers.
That simple.
Reply:I am not sure what a %26quot;funeral card%26quot; is, but the funeral home should be able to assist you.
Reply:In lieu of flowers, we ask that donations be made to %26quot;name of charity%26quot;, in honor of %26quot;Name of the deceased%26quot;
Reply:As others have said, the funeral director will be able to assist you.
I have been to several funerals where there is wording on the card that says something like this:
%26quot;The family of Aunt Tillie request that, in lieu of flowers, a contribution be made to the ASPCA, Aunt Tillie%26#039;s favorite charity.%26quot;
This is also usually printed at the end of the obituary in the paper....
By the time folks come for calling hours or a wake, they have already sent flowers. So it is important to have it in the paper...
I%26#039;m sorry for your loss and hope that this helps...
Reg
Reply:Wow, nice sentiment. Why don%26#039;t you simply write your own words? You could express yourself better than a commercially produced card. Hope this helps.
Reply:look at other people%26#039;s obituaries.
Reply:at a funeral home
Reply:In Lieu of flowers, a memorial fund has been established for ___________ at __________________.
In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to _________________ in ________________ name.
Reply:This has happened so %26quot;Unexpectedly%26quot; we were caught right in the middle of a %26quot;Financial%26quot; crunch, and regret having to ask everyone, for some sort of %26quot;Contribution%26quot;, to help, with some of the %26quot;Financial-Burdens%26quot;, for this Heart-breaking, time.....Any Kind of contributions, will not go, unnoticed, or unappreciated.........(Then, end it, we just cant thank-you, enough)...
Reply:You can just add a little line at the bottom of the card. %26quot;The family of ______________ request that a donation be made to _____________ in lieu of flowers. Thank you.%26quot;
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Instead of flowers, would it be wrong to send a bunch of bananas to Falwell's funeral and sign it "From Kirk"?
How about a gym bag full of Meth %26quot;From Pastor Ted%26quot;?
Instead of flowers, would it be wrong to send a bunch of bananas to Falwell%26#039;s funeral and sign it %26quot;From Kirk%26quot;?
Your time for %26quot;bananas%26quot; will come when you take your last breath !! Pastor Falwell would most likely quote you these two scriptures.... ( Romans 12 : 14 .. Bless them which persecute you : bless , and curse not . ) ... ( Romans 12 : 21 ... Be not overcome of evil , but overcome evil with good . ) Then I`m sure in reference to you he would Pray , %26quot;God have Mercy on this soul %26quot;..
super nanny
Instead of flowers, would it be wrong to send a bunch of bananas to Falwell%26#039;s funeral and sign it %26quot;From Kirk%26quot;?
Your time for %26quot;bananas%26quot; will come when you take your last breath !! Pastor Falwell would most likely quote you these two scriptures.... ( Romans 12 : 14 .. Bless them which persecute you : bless , and curse not . ) ... ( Romans 12 : 21 ... Be not overcome of evil , but overcome evil with good . ) Then I`m sure in reference to you he would Pray , %26quot;God have Mercy on this soul %26quot;..
super nanny
If the funeral was on Sunday, Is it ok to send flowers the following Tuesday?
The florist wasn%26#039;t open on Sunday and I didn%26#039;t have time on Monday.
If the funeral was on Sunday, Is it ok to send flowers the following Tuesday?
Yes it is but instead of sending flowers how about a potted plant instead. It is never to late to show sympathy and if you feel bad sending flowers late then drop a condolence card in the mail with a hand written message.
Reply:Of course it is. The family won%26#039;t stop needing support after the service. I have bben there and the one%26#039;s that still show support when you need it the most are the ones you remember.
Reply:Absolutely
Reply:yes its ok.......I never too late to offer ur sympathies.
Reply:The funeral home will deliver them to the family if you send them after the service.
Reply:Of course you can send flowers anyday of the week!!!! It helps people with their mourning its something about the heartwarming colors and smells that puts a smile on anyones face
skin disease
If the funeral was on Sunday, Is it ok to send flowers the following Tuesday?
Yes it is but instead of sending flowers how about a potted plant instead. It is never to late to show sympathy and if you feel bad sending flowers late then drop a condolence card in the mail with a hand written message.
Reply:Of course it is. The family won%26#039;t stop needing support after the service. I have bben there and the one%26#039;s that still show support when you need it the most are the ones you remember.
Reply:Absolutely
Reply:yes its ok.......I never too late to offer ur sympathies.
Reply:The funeral home will deliver them to the family if you send them after the service.
Reply:Of course you can send flowers anyday of the week!!!! It helps people with their mourning its something about the heartwarming colors and smells that puts a smile on anyones face
skin disease
What to write on Funeral flower card?
My Girlfirends Grandmother died, and i am sending a Flower stand to the Funeral home. However I dont know what to write on the crad, what do you ussually write. any help would be GREAT
What to write on Funeral flower card?
The florist usually can help you out. Keep it short and to the point.
I%26#039;m sorry for your loss
My deepest sympathy
My deepest condolences.
Reply:Sorry for you loss. Please let me know if you need anything.
Reply:just write on the card that your sorry about your loss and then sign it
Reply:life is like a beautiful melody,
only the lyrics are sometimes messed up..
sorry for your loss..
Reply:wake up Jack A*s
Reply:Peace. Write something about peace. Peace be with you. May you have peace.
Reply:so sorry for your loss
my deepest condolences
my thoughts are with you
Reply:life goes on %26amp; on.....?
nanny
What to write on Funeral flower card?
The florist usually can help you out. Keep it short and to the point.
I%26#039;m sorry for your loss
My deepest sympathy
My deepest condolences.
Reply:Sorry for you loss. Please let me know if you need anything.
Reply:just write on the card that your sorry about your loss and then sign it
Reply:life is like a beautiful melody,
only the lyrics are sometimes messed up..
sorry for your loss..
Reply:wake up Jack A*s
Reply:Peace. Write something about peace. Peace be with you. May you have peace.
Reply:so sorry for your loss
my deepest condolences
my thoughts are with you
Reply:life goes on %26amp; on.....?
nanny
How to make funeral flower arrangements?
I want to learn how to make funeral flower arrangements
How to make funeral flower arrangements?
take a flower arranging class - most community colleges offer these types of non-credited courses.
Reply:fortunately people are getting away from the old fashioned spider mums and stargazer lilies! what type are you thinking - those for the altar, the grave blanket or the wreaths and soffin throws -- all that comes from a school that has a floral program unless you can get in with a small town older florist who%26#039;d willing to take on interns.
Shoes
How to make funeral flower arrangements?
take a flower arranging class - most community colleges offer these types of non-credited courses.
Reply:fortunately people are getting away from the old fashioned spider mums and stargazer lilies! what type are you thinking - those for the altar, the grave blanket or the wreaths and soffin throws -- all that comes from a school that has a floral program unless you can get in with a small town older florist who%26#039;d willing to take on interns.
Shoes
House plant dying got from a funeral please help big green leaves w/no flowers drk spots then yellow brown dea
Sounds like an aspidistra. Try Google and find some pics
House plant dying got from a funeral please help big green leaves w/no flowers drk spots then yellow brown dea
Usually Yellow with dark spots means over watering the plant. Find out what type of plant it is, and find a care sheet.
Reply:less water, more sun.
If it is cold outside, don%26#039;t have it touching the window.(It%26#039;s too cold for the plant)
If this doesn%26#039;t work, do the exact opposite. It%26#039;s one of the two.
Try less water first, though.
loan
House plant dying got from a funeral please help big green leaves w/no flowers drk spots then yellow brown dea
Usually Yellow with dark spots means over watering the plant. Find out what type of plant it is, and find a care sheet.
Reply:less water, more sun.
If it is cold outside, don%26#039;t have it touching the window.(It%26#039;s too cold for the plant)
If this doesn%26#039;t work, do the exact opposite. It%26#039;s one of the two.
Try less water first, though.
loan
House plant dying got from a funeral please help big green leaves w/no flowers drk spots then yellow brown dea
Your over watering it,and it may be in a draught.House plants need very little water and usually no fertiliser.Only water when top of soil is dry,usually once a week in Summer, and fortnightly in Winter. Also keep away from Air Conditioning and any windy spots.
puppy teeth
puppy teeth
Funeral Ettiquite: The deceased requested that no flowers be given. What should I do to express my respects?
Here are two suggestions.
1. You can make a donation in the deceased name and have that placed in a card to the family
2. You can make a donation tot he family to help care for the expenses
Also I noticed someone suggested a color to wear to the funeral. you might want to consider what that family or the deceased would consider respectful. In my family and at my church we wear white for life and eternity coupled with a color that signifies everlasting life or something joyful I usually wear red for the blood of Christ or green for everlasting life. Again, consider what the family would want.
I am very sorry for your loss.
Funeral Ettiquite: The deceased requested that no flowers be given. What should I do to express my respects?
You just need to show up. By doing so you are showing your respect. Nothing else is needed. Just make sure you ware appropriate clothes (black or very dark).
Reply:Ask a member of the family if there is a charity that they would like you to donate to in leu of flowers (in the name of the deceased). It%26#039;s a nice gesture and depending on the circumstances, there%26#039;s usually a charity related to the type of death. Best of luck to you.
Reply:If the family or deceased individual has taken the time to request that flowers not be bought or given, there will likely be a donation site in the name of the individual who passed away. Likely, you can contact a charity or a bank with whom the individual made an agreement and donate money in the name of that person.
It%26#039;s a different type of memorial for someone who wishes there to be a lasting result of their life.
Regrets for your loss.
SSS
Reply:Some people make donations to charities in lieu of flowers and say in loving memory.
Reply:My grandma did the same,only she made us promise no headstone,she didnt even want us to visit her grave,At first i found this horrible,then my granny told me before she died that she wanted me to remember her while she was alive,not visit some stone and cry cause she is gone.She told me she was going to a better place.So we honored her wishes and i only visited her grave once to tell her that i was moving to another state.Good luck God bless.Remember to think of the good times,it will help.
loan
1. You can make a donation in the deceased name and have that placed in a card to the family
2. You can make a donation tot he family to help care for the expenses
Also I noticed someone suggested a color to wear to the funeral. you might want to consider what that family or the deceased would consider respectful. In my family and at my church we wear white for life and eternity coupled with a color that signifies everlasting life or something joyful I usually wear red for the blood of Christ or green for everlasting life. Again, consider what the family would want.
I am very sorry for your loss.
Funeral Ettiquite: The deceased requested that no flowers be given. What should I do to express my respects?
You just need to show up. By doing so you are showing your respect. Nothing else is needed. Just make sure you ware appropriate clothes (black or very dark).
Reply:Ask a member of the family if there is a charity that they would like you to donate to in leu of flowers (in the name of the deceased). It%26#039;s a nice gesture and depending on the circumstances, there%26#039;s usually a charity related to the type of death. Best of luck to you.
Reply:If the family or deceased individual has taken the time to request that flowers not be bought or given, there will likely be a donation site in the name of the individual who passed away. Likely, you can contact a charity or a bank with whom the individual made an agreement and donate money in the name of that person.
It%26#039;s a different type of memorial for someone who wishes there to be a lasting result of their life.
Regrets for your loss.
SSS
Reply:Some people make donations to charities in lieu of flowers and say in loving memory.
Reply:My grandma did the same,only she made us promise no headstone,she didnt even want us to visit her grave,At first i found this horrible,then my granny told me before she died that she wanted me to remember her while she was alive,not visit some stone and cry cause she is gone.She told me she was going to a better place.So we honored her wishes and i only visited her grave once to tell her that i was moving to another state.Good luck God bless.Remember to think of the good times,it will help.
loan
Is it okay to bring a fruit basket to a funeral visitation instead of the usual flowers or plant??
Flowers are traditional at the funeral home.
You could send the fruit basket to the home of the bereaved.
Mourners bring themselves to the funeral home (no gifts). Cards are left at the entrance where guests sign in. If the cards contain money, it may be safer to give them to the funeral director.
I suggest sending the fruit basket to wherever the wake is and the guests can partake from there.
After the funeral, the family has to decide whether to take the flowers to the grave site, divide up the flowers amongst the family, or to send some to nursing homes or to a hospice.
Is it okay to bring a fruit basket to a funeral visitation instead of the usual flowers or plant??
No. That is very inappropriate. Flowers and plants are for the deceased, the fruit is for the mourners.
Reply:Where I live, flowers for the viewing or funeral, later a cooked dish is dropped off at the bereaved%26#039;s house by all well wishers so the family don%26#039;t have to cook during the worst of their grief.
Reply:No.
Reply:Fruit baskets are usually given as a well-wisher%26#039;s gift, something like get well soon (maybe cause fruits are nutritious). Besides if you give fruit baskets during a funeral, who%26#039;s going to eat it if everyone%26#039;s sad ( and you can%26#039;t definitely give it to the dead)..
Reply:It is thoughtful that you thought of it but I wouldnt say its proper. I would reccomend making a donation for funeral expenses.
Reply:A couple of days after my father%26#039;s funeral I received a fruit basket. It was the nicest token....I was missing him and sad and all the flowers, of course, were wilting by then.
Obviously you don%26#039;t take or send a fruit basket (or even a live plant) to the funeral home...but these are great items to have sent to the home.
Reply:You can bring a fruit basket to the house, not to the visitation!
Reply:Flowers generally at the funeral home, fruit baskets and any kind of food at the wake, or after funeral visitation, unless it%26#039;s being held in a church basement, then the church ladies usually handle the food.
Reply:No. Feel free to send the fruit to the home of the family.
c++
You could send the fruit basket to the home of the bereaved.
Mourners bring themselves to the funeral home (no gifts). Cards are left at the entrance where guests sign in. If the cards contain money, it may be safer to give them to the funeral director.
I suggest sending the fruit basket to wherever the wake is and the guests can partake from there.
After the funeral, the family has to decide whether to take the flowers to the grave site, divide up the flowers amongst the family, or to send some to nursing homes or to a hospice.
Is it okay to bring a fruit basket to a funeral visitation instead of the usual flowers or plant??
No. That is very inappropriate. Flowers and plants are for the deceased, the fruit is for the mourners.
Reply:Where I live, flowers for the viewing or funeral, later a cooked dish is dropped off at the bereaved%26#039;s house by all well wishers so the family don%26#039;t have to cook during the worst of their grief.
Reply:No.
Reply:Fruit baskets are usually given as a well-wisher%26#039;s gift, something like get well soon (maybe cause fruits are nutritious). Besides if you give fruit baskets during a funeral, who%26#039;s going to eat it if everyone%26#039;s sad ( and you can%26#039;t definitely give it to the dead)..
Reply:It is thoughtful that you thought of it but I wouldnt say its proper. I would reccomend making a donation for funeral expenses.
Reply:A couple of days after my father%26#039;s funeral I received a fruit basket. It was the nicest token....I was missing him and sad and all the flowers, of course, were wilting by then.
Obviously you don%26#039;t take or send a fruit basket (or even a live plant) to the funeral home...but these are great items to have sent to the home.
Reply:You can bring a fruit basket to the house, not to the visitation!
Reply:Flowers generally at the funeral home, fruit baskets and any kind of food at the wake, or after funeral visitation, unless it%26#039;s being held in a church basement, then the church ladies usually handle the food.
Reply:No. Feel free to send the fruit to the home of the family.
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What yellow flowers are in season now that I can use to make a bouquet for a funeral next week?
At the request of my departed mother in law I need to make two bouquets in yellow flowers and I dont know what I will be able to get hold off this weekend.
What yellow flowers are in season now that I can use to make a bouquet for a funeral next week?
Black-eyed Susan and Mums are both in season now, and both are yellow.
Condolences on the death of your mother-in-law.
Reply:Florists get their flowers from around the world, so season isn%26#039;t a concern. If you are going with home grown flowers, noncommercial, you%26#039;d be out of luck at my place as we%26#039;ve had several frosts. That said, you could still use evergreen material as base and filler and just buy what you need for the flower.
Reply:crysanthemums and marigolds. Depending where you are zinnias or maybe lilies.
Reply:In my garden there are sunflowers, but don%26#039;t think they are appropriate for a funeral. If coreopsis are blooming, they would do. Yellow roses would be good. Yellow hollyhocks might be blooming now. Thats all I can think of now.
Reply:Dahlia%26#039;s. marigolds sunflowers roses
Reply:Roses are still blooming ,dahlias also
Reply:just go to a good florists, they have every kind of flower almost all year round these days.
Reply:Depending on your location you could also find gladiolas but as the first poster said, most good florists have just about anything. If you give them the heads up in advance and let them know you are specifically looking for yellow they can order extra yellow varieties in for you.
PS Sorry for your loss.
Reply:Mums. and Blackeyed Susans(they are comming up WILD all over my neighborhood right now (early Oct.)
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What yellow flowers are in season now that I can use to make a bouquet for a funeral next week?
Black-eyed Susan and Mums are both in season now, and both are yellow.
Condolences on the death of your mother-in-law.
Reply:Florists get their flowers from around the world, so season isn%26#039;t a concern. If you are going with home grown flowers, noncommercial, you%26#039;d be out of luck at my place as we%26#039;ve had several frosts. That said, you could still use evergreen material as base and filler and just buy what you need for the flower.
Reply:crysanthemums and marigolds. Depending where you are zinnias or maybe lilies.
Reply:In my garden there are sunflowers, but don%26#039;t think they are appropriate for a funeral. If coreopsis are blooming, they would do. Yellow roses would be good. Yellow hollyhocks might be blooming now. Thats all I can think of now.
Reply:Dahlia%26#039;s. marigolds sunflowers roses
Reply:Roses are still blooming ,dahlias also
Reply:just go to a good florists, they have every kind of flower almost all year round these days.
Reply:Depending on your location you could also find gladiolas but as the first poster said, most good florists have just about anything. If you give them the heads up in advance and let them know you are specifically looking for yellow they can order extra yellow varieties in for you.
PS Sorry for your loss.
Reply:Mums. and Blackeyed Susans(they are comming up WILD all over my neighborhood right now (early Oct.)
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What flowers are a good way to honor a friend's asian heritage for her father's funeral?
I just found out that a close friend%26#039;s father passed away and the funeral is tomorrow. Me and other friends are trying to figure out what to send as a gift of support, love and encouragement. Her family is Chinese and we would like to honor this in whatever arrangement we can get.
What flowers are a good way to honor a friend%26#039;s asian heritage for her father%26#039;s funeral?
yellow and white chrysanthemum. lilies are not so much appropriate for chinese funerals.
Reply:a bonsai tree given to the family in memorium.
Reply:I would call a local Chinese Flower Shop and ask them what to send, I know that different flowers and colors mean different things also the number of flowers may matter as well. If she is a close friend and you plan of attending the funeral I would call a Chinese Church and ask about the ceremony such as how many times you bow at the casket, where you stand and what colors you can wear.. These things are important and they DO matter it will also mean a lot to your friend to see that you care enough about her to prepare yourself out of respect for her father. I suggest you do not ask your friend these things but find someone else at a church or something similar.. It also matters the religion of your friends family. Good Luck
Reply:ask the flower shop in the Chinese neighborhood.maybe a certain flower could be offensive.
Reply:Use yellow chrysanthemums. You can order online and send a flower wreath over as condolences. You won%26#039;t need to decide the type of flowers, just pick the design from the catalogue.
Reply:lilies...everyone loves lilies
Reply:Meals sent to the home are always a great idea for a family suffering a lost. Flowers die, and are quite expensive, (although pretty), they just aren%26#039;t as helpful as Making it easy on the family for a few days, by giving them less to do.
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What flowers are a good way to honor a friend%26#039;s asian heritage for her father%26#039;s funeral?
yellow and white chrysanthemum. lilies are not so much appropriate for chinese funerals.
Reply:a bonsai tree given to the family in memorium.
Reply:I would call a local Chinese Flower Shop and ask them what to send, I know that different flowers and colors mean different things also the number of flowers may matter as well. If she is a close friend and you plan of attending the funeral I would call a Chinese Church and ask about the ceremony such as how many times you bow at the casket, where you stand and what colors you can wear.. These things are important and they DO matter it will also mean a lot to your friend to see that you care enough about her to prepare yourself out of respect for her father. I suggest you do not ask your friend these things but find someone else at a church or something similar.. It also matters the religion of your friends family. Good Luck
Reply:ask the flower shop in the Chinese neighborhood.maybe a certain flower could be offensive.
Reply:Use yellow chrysanthemums. You can order online and send a flower wreath over as condolences. You won%26#039;t need to decide the type of flowers, just pick the design from the catalogue.
Reply:lilies...everyone loves lilies
Reply:Meals sent to the home are always a great idea for a family suffering a lost. Flowers die, and are quite expensive, (although pretty), they just aren%26#039;t as helpful as Making it easy on the family for a few days, by giving them less to do.
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Can you suggest what type of flowers i should send to my 11 year old cousin's funeral?
I don%26#039;t know whether to send something that the family can take home or what.
I would like to buy something for a child but so far the local florists websites (Haven%26#039;t got to go to town yet) shows nothing for a child%26#039;s funeral.
(My 11 year old cousin was killed Monday in a car accident)
Thanks
Can you suggest what type of flowers i should send to my 11 year old cousin%26#039;s funeral?
Sorry to hear about your loose...it must be hard, especially for a young girl.
I would send something to the house, like a basket of fuit, cracker, cheese, etc. So many people send flowers that they go to waste, a food basket is something they can use.
Good bless to you and your family.
Reply:I actually asked a question here last night.
MY daughter%26#039;s half brother (6) was killed suddenly earlier this week (drowning). I wasn%26#039;t sure if it was appropriate to send flowers since the children never knew each other (deadbeat dad to both of them).
I decided that since he was so young, his mother likely didn%26#039;t have life insurance on him. Instead, I sent a fifty dollar payment towards his funeral expenses to the funeral home handling his family and signed the payment from my daughter (his sister). A little help is far more practical than flowers in these times.
Just a suggestion.
Reply:I like the idea about sending money or a fruit basket, that will probably be more help than flowers but if you choice to go with flowers talk to some people and find out what the colors they choice to go with on the casket, or go to this web site... www.order-flowers-delivery.com/funeral-f... They have pretty idea%26#039;s that you might be able to have them make up at your local flower store, or it will give you cute ideas that you could mix together. Good luck and Sorry, prayers with the family.
Reply:first of all im sorry to hear that and second of all some white roses i think
Reply:the best flowers to send are red for love and white for peace and harmony, i also know what it is like to loose someone so young and close my girl friend lost her son 3days before he was 8months old due to a syndrome that is very rare.
Reply:You could send a peace lily. My dad passed away 5 years ago and I still have the one from his funeral.
Reply:My condolences. That is absolutely tragic. Was your cousin a boy or a girl? If a girl, I would suggest some pretty pale pink flowers (depending what is in season in your country) and if a boy, I would choose something with pale yellow or white. Something pretty and gentle.
You may want to look into donating a sum of money into a charity for children in your cousin%26#039;s name - his or her parents would appreciate the gesture.
I am very sorry for your terrible loss. x
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I would like to buy something for a child but so far the local florists websites (Haven%26#039;t got to go to town yet) shows nothing for a child%26#039;s funeral.
(My 11 year old cousin was killed Monday in a car accident)
Thanks
Can you suggest what type of flowers i should send to my 11 year old cousin%26#039;s funeral?
Sorry to hear about your loose...it must be hard, especially for a young girl.
I would send something to the house, like a basket of fuit, cracker, cheese, etc. So many people send flowers that they go to waste, a food basket is something they can use.
Good bless to you and your family.
Reply:I actually asked a question here last night.
MY daughter%26#039;s half brother (6) was killed suddenly earlier this week (drowning). I wasn%26#039;t sure if it was appropriate to send flowers since the children never knew each other (deadbeat dad to both of them).
I decided that since he was so young, his mother likely didn%26#039;t have life insurance on him. Instead, I sent a fifty dollar payment towards his funeral expenses to the funeral home handling his family and signed the payment from my daughter (his sister). A little help is far more practical than flowers in these times.
Just a suggestion.
Reply:I like the idea about sending money or a fruit basket, that will probably be more help than flowers but if you choice to go with flowers talk to some people and find out what the colors they choice to go with on the casket, or go to this web site... www.order-flowers-delivery.com/funeral-f... They have pretty idea%26#039;s that you might be able to have them make up at your local flower store, or it will give you cute ideas that you could mix together. Good luck and Sorry, prayers with the family.
Reply:first of all im sorry to hear that and second of all some white roses i think
Reply:the best flowers to send are red for love and white for peace and harmony, i also know what it is like to loose someone so young and close my girl friend lost her son 3days before he was 8months old due to a syndrome that is very rare.
Reply:You could send a peace lily. My dad passed away 5 years ago and I still have the one from his funeral.
Reply:My condolences. That is absolutely tragic. Was your cousin a boy or a girl? If a girl, I would suggest some pretty pale pink flowers (depending what is in season in your country) and if a boy, I would choose something with pale yellow or white. Something pretty and gentle.
You may want to look into donating a sum of money into a charity for children in your cousin%26#039;s name - his or her parents would appreciate the gesture.
I am very sorry for your terrible loss. x
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Do any of you know if there is a funeral flower arrangement book in the market?
I need to buy books that has a great deal of photos for funeral flowers arrangement. I also need to get books on room decorating tips for funeral parlor.
Do any of you know if there is a funeral flower arrangement book in the market?
Contact an established local florist in your area. The florist would have several books on funeral flowers and could either sell you some of their books or give you a good source of where to secure one. Also, look for the nearest Floral Syndicate store, or a First Distributor - these are wholesalers for florists - they have books on sympathy flowers by John Henry. The books show the flowers in the funeral home setting, so you could get ideas on decorating your funeral home.
Reply:There are some funeral flower arrangement catalogs online at any maj`/,tlower shop.
Reply:Go to:
https://www.afloral.com/index.asp?pageac... and click on %26quot;Tributes%26quot;.
I%26#039;m not sure about the funeral parlor decorating.
Reply:the best books out there with funeral flowers are the wire service books. go on ebay and look for teleflora or ftd books that florists may be selling. if you are decorating the funeral home, is it for business purposes so clients will order from you or is it for the purpose of general decorating? i am curious, if you are doing this as a business, why dont you already have the books or pics of past work you have done. clients do not want to see a picture book they want to see pics of what you have done.
for decorating the funeral home, subtle arrangements in the color scheme that will coordinate with funeral homes style . there is no special decorating involved
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Do any of you know if there is a funeral flower arrangement book in the market?
Contact an established local florist in your area. The florist would have several books on funeral flowers and could either sell you some of their books or give you a good source of where to secure one. Also, look for the nearest Floral Syndicate store, or a First Distributor - these are wholesalers for florists - they have books on sympathy flowers by John Henry. The books show the flowers in the funeral home setting, so you could get ideas on decorating your funeral home.
Reply:There are some funeral flower arrangement catalogs online at any maj`/,tlower shop.
Reply:Go to:
https://www.afloral.com/index.asp?pageac... and click on %26quot;Tributes%26quot;.
I%26#039;m not sure about the funeral parlor decorating.
Reply:the best books out there with funeral flowers are the wire service books. go on ebay and look for teleflora or ftd books that florists may be selling. if you are decorating the funeral home, is it for business purposes so clients will order from you or is it for the purpose of general decorating? i am curious, if you are doing this as a business, why dont you already have the books or pics of past work you have done. clients do not want to see a picture book they want to see pics of what you have done.
for decorating the funeral home, subtle arrangements in the color scheme that will coordinate with funeral homes style . there is no special decorating involved
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What can I put on funeral flower card?
My dad died last week and it%26#039;s his funeral on Tuesday and I have no idea what to put on the card for the flowers.
What can I put on funeral flower card?
first of all.sorry for your loss.i know how you feel and what you%26#039;re going through.just put what he meant to you and what an influence he made on you.
Reply:sorry to hear of your loss, say what u really feel inside, remember he will always be in your heart and never be forgotten, how much u will miss him, its a hard time to express how you feel when you go through such a bad time, still going through it myself so i feel for you
Reply:Always be missed.
Forever Loved.
Always In My Heart.
So Sorry for your loss.
God Bless
Reply:So sorry to hear about your Dad.
Just put something simple, thats from the heart. It doesnt have to be very long, just a sentence or two.
RIP Dad, I%26#039;ll Never Forget You. Love You Always.
Reply:well you could always put something you would have liked to say to him before he died, or how you feel bout him
just say whats inside of you
xx
Reply:I was going to post something silly but changed my mind as you may be genuine.
I wrote on my Dads card %26quot;Your presence in Heaven will make it a richer and better place%26quot;
Sorry for your loss. You only ever have one Mum and Dad.
Reply:Each night we shed a silent tear,
As we speak to you in prayer.
To let you know we love you,
And just how much we care.
Take our million teardrops,
Wrap them up in love,
Then ask the wind to carry them,
To you in heaven above.
That%26#039;s what i put on a card for my uncle, with a picture of him above it.. i did it on my pc and then laminated it.. there are lots of things you can do or write.. plenty to look at on the net. have you thought about making a slideshow with pictures of him from various points in his life with his favourite song playing in the background? wonderful way to commemerate a loved one. i%26#039;m really sorry for your loss.
Reply:write something that comes from your heart to your dad or maybe you could write :
i will always love you and will never forget you
miss you lots
sorry for your loss
Reply:Condolences to you on the loss of your father.
Like others have said, let the words come from your heart and then end it with RIP.
Good Luck
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What can I put on funeral flower card?
first of all.sorry for your loss.i know how you feel and what you%26#039;re going through.just put what he meant to you and what an influence he made on you.
Reply:sorry to hear of your loss, say what u really feel inside, remember he will always be in your heart and never be forgotten, how much u will miss him, its a hard time to express how you feel when you go through such a bad time, still going through it myself so i feel for you
Reply:Always be missed.
Forever Loved.
Always In My Heart.
So Sorry for your loss.
God Bless
Reply:So sorry to hear about your Dad.
Just put something simple, thats from the heart. It doesnt have to be very long, just a sentence or two.
RIP Dad, I%26#039;ll Never Forget You. Love You Always.
Reply:well you could always put something you would have liked to say to him before he died, or how you feel bout him
just say whats inside of you
xx
Reply:I was going to post something silly but changed my mind as you may be genuine.
I wrote on my Dads card %26quot;Your presence in Heaven will make it a richer and better place%26quot;
Sorry for your loss. You only ever have one Mum and Dad.
Reply:Each night we shed a silent tear,
As we speak to you in prayer.
To let you know we love you,
And just how much we care.
Take our million teardrops,
Wrap them up in love,
Then ask the wind to carry them,
To you in heaven above.
That%26#039;s what i put on a card for my uncle, with a picture of him above it.. i did it on my pc and then laminated it.. there are lots of things you can do or write.. plenty to look at on the net. have you thought about making a slideshow with pictures of him from various points in his life with his favourite song playing in the background? wonderful way to commemerate a loved one. i%26#039;m really sorry for your loss.
Reply:write something that comes from your heart to your dad or maybe you could write :
i will always love you and will never forget you
miss you lots
sorry for your loss
Reply:Condolences to you on the loss of your father.
Like others have said, let the words come from your heart and then end it with RIP.
Good Luck
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I think this flu is killing me.Will you come to my funeral?Will you just send flowers?Or will you just say?
Who cares,I don%26#039;t even know this strange woman???
I think this flu is killing me.Will you come to my funeral?Will you just send flowers?Or will you just say?
I%26#039;d read a poem.. an ode to a witch....
which witch was which?
i don%26#039;t know which....
but which ever which was the witch..
she was a fine witch to be bewitched.
Reply:you%26#039;re welcome Report It
Reply:i don%26#039;t know you - so i wouldn%26#039;t know if you passed away
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Reply:how would i know if you were dead or not%26#039;%26#039;%26#039;
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I think this flu is killing me.Will you come to my funeral?Will you just send flowers?Or will you just say?
I%26#039;d read a poem.. an ode to a witch....
which witch was which?
i don%26#039;t know which....
but which ever which was the witch..
she was a fine witch to be bewitched.
Reply:you%26#039;re welcome Report It
Reply:i don%26#039;t know you - so i wouldn%26#039;t know if you passed away
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Reply:how would i know if you were dead or not%26#039;%26#039;%26#039;
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Why do we drop flowers onto a casket at the end of a funeral?
I have never known the real reason for the dropping of the flowers onto a casket before it goes under the ground. As well as the reason some people pour alcohol out in rememberance of a deceased friend or family member.
Why do we drop flowers onto a casket at the end of a funeral?
In funeral service history prior to today%26#039;s modern embalming the reason for flowers being present at a wake and funeral service was for oder control, the flowers were not the same flowers we use today they were specific flowers selected for their aroma / perfume. This has been carried on to today%26#039;s modern time services flowers are now used as a recognition and the show of support to the grieving family from friends and relatives. Now for your specific question flowers/ boutiners are placed on the casket by the pall bearers as a ceremony or final tribute as they pass by the casket. This would also depend on the funeral directer directing the service whether he is caring and wants to do everything he can to help make this one time life changing event memorable. Others family members place a single flower on the casket because they love them and it is the last thing that can be done at the cemetery and it also ads to the ceremony. Kind of nice huh.
Reply:To show that theyre letting go of the sorrows that the dead left behind
Reply:BECAUSE DEAD PEOPLE CAN%26#039;T BRING FLOWERS WITH THEM SO YOU TOSS IT OVER THEIR CASKET!! YOU POUR ALCOHOL BECAUSE THEY CAN%26#039;T DRINK IT SO YOU POUR IT OUT FOR THEM %26gt;%26gt;%26gt;YOUR LAST GOODBYE.
Reply:thats a gift from the people they love.
Reply:It%26#039;s all a big scheme the flower industry has to boost sales. It all started back in 1932 when Otis Q. McMurray, whose flower shop was on the verge of closing in post-depression Rhode Island, came up with a great idea. It was a stupendous, miraculous, ingenious idea! With all of the people dying from poor nutrition, Otis could make money by spreading the rumor that placing flowers on the grave of their recently departed family and friends would bring them good luck in the form of wealth and occupations. And wouldn%26#039;t you know it, Otis%26#039;s idea worked! It soon spread to all of the country and soon everyone was placing flowers at the final resting places of their loved ones. And to this day funeral flowers have continued to be a multi-million dollar business.
Reply:i think the flowers has some pagan and buddhist roots... as for the dumping booze, it%26#039;s just a %26quot;sacrifice%26quot; lol
Reply:Because they%26#039;re pretty?
Reply:Its just a gesture of love and affection for the deceased
Reply:Something to take with them in the afterlife
Reply:because in olden days the corpse stunk with decay from no embalming?
Reply:tradition perchance?
Reply:For closure, more than anything else.
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Why do we drop flowers onto a casket at the end of a funeral?
In funeral service history prior to today%26#039;s modern embalming the reason for flowers being present at a wake and funeral service was for oder control, the flowers were not the same flowers we use today they were specific flowers selected for their aroma / perfume. This has been carried on to today%26#039;s modern time services flowers are now used as a recognition and the show of support to the grieving family from friends and relatives. Now for your specific question flowers/ boutiners are placed on the casket by the pall bearers as a ceremony or final tribute as they pass by the casket. This would also depend on the funeral directer directing the service whether he is caring and wants to do everything he can to help make this one time life changing event memorable. Others family members place a single flower on the casket because they love them and it is the last thing that can be done at the cemetery and it also ads to the ceremony. Kind of nice huh.
Reply:To show that theyre letting go of the sorrows that the dead left behind
Reply:BECAUSE DEAD PEOPLE CAN%26#039;T BRING FLOWERS WITH THEM SO YOU TOSS IT OVER THEIR CASKET!! YOU POUR ALCOHOL BECAUSE THEY CAN%26#039;T DRINK IT SO YOU POUR IT OUT FOR THEM %26gt;%26gt;%26gt;YOUR LAST GOODBYE.
Reply:thats a gift from the people they love.
Reply:It%26#039;s all a big scheme the flower industry has to boost sales. It all started back in 1932 when Otis Q. McMurray, whose flower shop was on the verge of closing in post-depression Rhode Island, came up with a great idea. It was a stupendous, miraculous, ingenious idea! With all of the people dying from poor nutrition, Otis could make money by spreading the rumor that placing flowers on the grave of their recently departed family and friends would bring them good luck in the form of wealth and occupations. And wouldn%26#039;t you know it, Otis%26#039;s idea worked! It soon spread to all of the country and soon everyone was placing flowers at the final resting places of their loved ones. And to this day funeral flowers have continued to be a multi-million dollar business.
Reply:i think the flowers has some pagan and buddhist roots... as for the dumping booze, it%26#039;s just a %26quot;sacrifice%26quot; lol
Reply:Because they%26#039;re pretty?
Reply:Its just a gesture of love and affection for the deceased
Reply:Something to take with them in the afterlife
Reply:because in olden days the corpse stunk with decay from no embalming?
Reply:tradition perchance?
Reply:For closure, more than anything else.
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Funeral flower words?
can anyone help me out with words to write on the card to go with my flowers for my boyfriends dads funeral. I did not know him that well (my boyfriend and I have been together for a year) I want something heart felt but that does not sound over the top as we were not close or anything.
apreciate any ideas
Funeral flower words?
%26quot;With sympathy to you and your family. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. xyour namex%26quot;
You could also add somewhere in there or replace the sympathy line with. %26quot;In regards to your lose, you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers%26quot; Something like that.
I hope this helps, it is very sincere yet not crossing the boundary since you really didn%26#039;t know him that well.
Good Luck hope this helps!
Reply:tough one
id go for something that compliments your boyfriend being raised by a caring and loving dad if youve been with your boyf for sometime
Reply:I didn%26#039;t know you very long but in the time that I did I realised that you were a great man. Always smiling and always cheerful, whenever I saw you, you made me smile. James (boyfriends name) and I will miss you dearly. Rest in peace. Love amy (your name).
Hope this helps and sorry for your loss
Reply:just say it from your heart.....i didnt know that a card was to go with the flowers ...... i would send a sympothy card to the wife/gf.......but just send the flowers to the funeral home.
Reply:You are writing the card to the family, not the deceased. Try something like %26quot;With deepest sympathy and affection%26quot; and then your name. No love,sincerely etc. Keep it simple.
Reply:may your light linger on in those you loved
Reply:Sorry you had to flop pop.-lol--Your second answer was nice and mature,wise.
Reply:Keep it really simple as in Good Night God Bless and your name.
Reply:well certainly not the words i put on my fathers flowers, i had a black rose and a white rose and wrote %26#039;your death means my peace good riddance father%26#039;
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apreciate any ideas
Funeral flower words?
%26quot;With sympathy to you and your family. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. xyour namex%26quot;
You could also add somewhere in there or replace the sympathy line with. %26quot;In regards to your lose, you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers%26quot; Something like that.
I hope this helps, it is very sincere yet not crossing the boundary since you really didn%26#039;t know him that well.
Good Luck hope this helps!
Reply:tough one
id go for something that compliments your boyfriend being raised by a caring and loving dad if youve been with your boyf for sometime
Reply:I didn%26#039;t know you very long but in the time that I did I realised that you were a great man. Always smiling and always cheerful, whenever I saw you, you made me smile. James (boyfriends name) and I will miss you dearly. Rest in peace. Love amy (your name).
Hope this helps and sorry for your loss
Reply:just say it from your heart.....i didnt know that a card was to go with the flowers ...... i would send a sympothy card to the wife/gf.......but just send the flowers to the funeral home.
Reply:You are writing the card to the family, not the deceased. Try something like %26quot;With deepest sympathy and affection%26quot; and then your name. No love,sincerely etc. Keep it simple.
Reply:may your light linger on in those you loved
Reply:Sorry you had to flop pop.-lol--Your second answer was nice and mature,wise.
Reply:Keep it really simple as in Good Night God Bless and your name.
Reply:well certainly not the words i put on my fathers flowers, i had a black rose and a white rose and wrote %26#039;your death means my peace good riddance father%26#039;
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What kind of flowers do you send to a funeral?
There is no rule however, so many people send roses or go the cheap way and send carnations. I have always spoken with my florist and worked with her to do something memorable that isn%26#039;t the run of the mill funeral spray. As a result, I%26#039;m always told how gorgeous the arrangements were. I have done the following:
1) spray of wild flowers
2) spray of Fire%26amp; Ice roses and white phlox
3) spray of delphinium, stargazer lilies and roses
4) spray of peonies, lilies and statis
5) send a nice plant - they don%26#039;t die (unless you don%26#039;t water them)
6) A nice basket arrangment of just about anything.
What kind of flowers do you send to a funeral?
If you want my opinion, don%26#039;t send flowers...make a donation to a charity in the name of the deceased. But thats just my preference. When my mom died I am glad we didn%26#039;t have a crapload of flowers to deal with. a week later.
Reply:I would send white lilies
Reply:Either the deceased%26#039;s favorite flowers or Lilies.
Reply:roses are popular.
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1) spray of wild flowers
2) spray of Fire%26amp; Ice roses and white phlox
3) spray of delphinium, stargazer lilies and roses
4) spray of peonies, lilies and statis
5) send a nice plant - they don%26#039;t die (unless you don%26#039;t water them)
6) A nice basket arrangment of just about anything.
What kind of flowers do you send to a funeral?
If you want my opinion, don%26#039;t send flowers...make a donation to a charity in the name of the deceased. But thats just my preference. When my mom died I am glad we didn%26#039;t have a crapload of flowers to deal with. a week later.
Reply:I would send white lilies
Reply:Either the deceased%26#039;s favorite flowers or Lilies.
Reply:roses are popular.
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I am sending flowers to my Great Aunt's funeral out of state.....?
I was going to just sign me and my husband%26#039;s name on the card. Should I write something else? I was close when I was a child but not as an adult. Also, what is the proper way to sign my name and my huband%26#039;s name and include my maiden name? I was going to do it this way:
Mr and Mrs John and Jennifer (Smith) Jones
Is that correct?
I am sending flowers to my Great Aunt%26#039;s funeral out of state.....?
That is an excellent way to sign your name(s). If there is a next of kin, make sure your write a little note to them on the card. Something like %26quot; Dear (name of closest relative) I loved Aunt --, we are both thinking of you and your family...%26quot; and if you can, try to give it a personal touch.
It is nice that you are sending flowers. Believe me I have been on the %26quot;closest relative%26quot; end and it means everything....
Reply:YOUR WAY IS JUST FINE
Reply:Since you were close when you were little you may say something like-%26quot;In loving memory of a great woman%26quot;.And yes-I would probably include my maiden name too.
Reply:sounds good to me alot of people sign it differently. the signature is not going to be what matters to them the thought is what is going to matter
Reply:Go with your gut! That is always the best way to go ! Sorry about your loss .........
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Mr and Mrs John and Jennifer (Smith) Jones
Is that correct?
I am sending flowers to my Great Aunt%26#039;s funeral out of state.....?
That is an excellent way to sign your name(s). If there is a next of kin, make sure your write a little note to them on the card. Something like %26quot; Dear (name of closest relative) I loved Aunt --, we are both thinking of you and your family...%26quot; and if you can, try to give it a personal touch.
It is nice that you are sending flowers. Believe me I have been on the %26quot;closest relative%26quot; end and it means everything....
Reply:YOUR WAY IS JUST FINE
Reply:Since you were close when you were little you may say something like-%26quot;In loving memory of a great woman%26quot;.And yes-I would probably include my maiden name too.
Reply:sounds good to me alot of people sign it differently. the signature is not going to be what matters to them the thought is what is going to matter
Reply:Go with your gut! That is always the best way to go ! Sorry about your loss .........
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Re: how to arrange a funeral spray? Actually how do you hold the flowers together? to make the spray.?
I have the flowers but I need make the base to arrange them in.
Re: how to arrange a funeral spray? Actually how do you hold the flowers together? to make the spray.?
Go to a craft store, they have a green substance called oasis.You can soak the green stuff with water, which will help keep the flowers for the services.Then put the arrangement in a basket,vase or other ascetically pleasing container to hide the green stuff and your good.
Reply:put them in a vase.
Reply:Hold them with caution and attention so as to avoid damage or potential problems.
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Re: how to arrange a funeral spray? Actually how do you hold the flowers together? to make the spray.?
Go to a craft store, they have a green substance called oasis.You can soak the green stuff with water, which will help keep the flowers for the services.Then put the arrangement in a basket,vase or other ascetically pleasing container to hide the green stuff and your good.
Reply:put them in a vase.
Reply:Hold them with caution and attention so as to avoid damage or potential problems.
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Cani give flowers to the widow at a funeral?
No, send her some food later She%26#039;ll be overwhelmed and doesn%26#039;t need anything else to handle.
Cani give flowers to the widow at a funeral?
I dont think there is a written law for funerals.. My son when lil lost his grand dad on his fathers side and he put a coke in w/ him... Although I do not know the ladies financial position, I think she would benefit greater from money.
Reply:No, but you can deliver them in person ahead of time to the funeral home if you are trying to save the delivery cost. If you want to give them to her in person - then do that a few days after the funeral when the funeral flowers are starting to fade.
Reply:no. that is not the proper time to give someone flowers. you can make arrangements with the funeral directors ahead of time to send flowers to the service. also, you could bring or send flowers to their home at a later date when the flowers from the funeral have died. the widow would also be appreciative of you offering to bring dinner at a later date, as they will hardly be able to think of making dinner for themselves or their family.
Reply:no its not a wedding or a event to give a gift! here you give your condolances
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Cani give flowers to the widow at a funeral?
I dont think there is a written law for funerals.. My son when lil lost his grand dad on his fathers side and he put a coke in w/ him... Although I do not know the ladies financial position, I think she would benefit greater from money.
Reply:No, but you can deliver them in person ahead of time to the funeral home if you are trying to save the delivery cost. If you want to give them to her in person - then do that a few days after the funeral when the funeral flowers are starting to fade.
Reply:no. that is not the proper time to give someone flowers. you can make arrangements with the funeral directors ahead of time to send flowers to the service. also, you could bring or send flowers to their home at a later date when the flowers from the funeral have died. the widow would also be appreciative of you offering to bring dinner at a later date, as they will hardly be able to think of making dinner for themselves or their family.
Reply:no its not a wedding or a event to give a gift! here you give your condolances
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What is the traditional bouquet of flowers to send to a funeral?
My uncle died this week, but my family was not close to him.
What is the traditional bouquet of flowers to send to a funeral?
Lilies, traditionally, but nowadays, you can send virtually anything. Just tell the florist it is for a funeral and to make up something appropriate. They will know exactly what to do.
Reply:A potted mum or daisy-something the family could put out in the yard later or you could make a donation to a charity and have the charity send a card to the family.
Reply:There%26#039;s nothing traditional. I just ask the florist what is the freshest thing on hand and send that. Sometimes it%26#039;s a potted plant.
Reply:Most florists have basic floral arrangement ideas for bouquets for funerals...you need to first figure out how much you can spend so you%26#039;ll get a range of choices within your budget. Once that%26#039;s decided, let the florist suggest colors and types of flowers...any arrangement they make will be within the %26#039;traditional%26#039; style. Then decide if you want something %26#039;on a stand%26#039; [wire with legs so flowers are about 18%26quot; above the floor] that can be placed on the floor by the casket in the viewing room or at the church, or a bouquet in a standard vase to set by the gravesite later or placed with the other flowers by the casket.
If you%26#039;re doing this via internet [like 1-800-Flowers, for instance] they%26#039;ll have lots of color photos of funeral arrangements within the various price ranges.
A card should accompany your flowers, like %26quot;with deepest sympathy, from [family names included]%26quot;. On an internet flower purchase, you can just tell them how the card should read. A card is really necessary, since the remaining family always tries to send thank-you notes afterwards...and often they%26#039;ll keep the cards from the flowers as a kind of memento of the occasion.
Reply:Better than flowers donate to his favorite charity and send a card saying you donated in his name. Flowers die so quickly after a funeral we paid like 300 for two wreaths.. but that was for my Mom. Only immediate family should really buy the flowers, like mother, father, brother, sister or grandparents. The rest should do donations.
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What is the traditional bouquet of flowers to send to a funeral?
Lilies, traditionally, but nowadays, you can send virtually anything. Just tell the florist it is for a funeral and to make up something appropriate. They will know exactly what to do.
Reply:A potted mum or daisy-something the family could put out in the yard later or you could make a donation to a charity and have the charity send a card to the family.
Reply:There%26#039;s nothing traditional. I just ask the florist what is the freshest thing on hand and send that. Sometimes it%26#039;s a potted plant.
Reply:Most florists have basic floral arrangement ideas for bouquets for funerals...you need to first figure out how much you can spend so you%26#039;ll get a range of choices within your budget. Once that%26#039;s decided, let the florist suggest colors and types of flowers...any arrangement they make will be within the %26#039;traditional%26#039; style. Then decide if you want something %26#039;on a stand%26#039; [wire with legs so flowers are about 18%26quot; above the floor] that can be placed on the floor by the casket in the viewing room or at the church, or a bouquet in a standard vase to set by the gravesite later or placed with the other flowers by the casket.
If you%26#039;re doing this via internet [like 1-800-Flowers, for instance] they%26#039;ll have lots of color photos of funeral arrangements within the various price ranges.
A card should accompany your flowers, like %26quot;with deepest sympathy, from [family names included]%26quot;. On an internet flower purchase, you can just tell them how the card should read. A card is really necessary, since the remaining family always tries to send thank-you notes afterwards...and often they%26#039;ll keep the cards from the flowers as a kind of memento of the occasion.
Reply:Better than flowers donate to his favorite charity and send a card saying you donated in his name. Flowers die so quickly after a funeral we paid like 300 for two wreaths.. but that was for my Mom. Only immediate family should really buy the flowers, like mother, father, brother, sister or grandparents. The rest should do donations.
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